Posted August 1st, 2012, 06:39 PM
Last edited by RMorningglory; August 1st, 2012 at 06:50 PM Reason: spelling
Have often wondered if the venue is chosen by Princess to reflect receipts. On more than one cruise the FOD listing was at a rather inappropriate time and we did not like the location. After the second get together those present chose a different time and a different and more comfortable venue for each subsequent day. It took a couple of days to get the word out to everyone but it all settled down. Our requests to have the listing of place and time in the Patter changed to that of our choice was ignored and each day they listed another bar at another time which we in turn just ignored.
We have sailed on Princess many times and I have to say have felt ultimately comfortable and have never felt as though we were not being supported. That being said... I am under the impression that the Patter is printed for the cruise prior to sailing, not daily, so requesting an adjustment of an item printed in it isn't going to work as the crew has no control over it. You kind of know this because there are announcements on the morning show that adjust patter Info. You aren't being ignored... you just need the serenity prayer. One way I have found to work around this is to go to the venue listed in the patter and tell the bartender what plans have changed and to please pass it along to anyone who may show up not knowing of the change.
Most of the ships have an Adagio lounge up at the back of the ship next to Sabatini's. This is usually where I have seen successful gatherings at 5:15 or so. It isn't usually where other people gather at that time of the day so you generally get the place to yourself. Most cruises that I have been on have the initial meeting there on the first day of the cruise but that is a big generalization so don't quote me on it. I also find that the first meeting is well attended but others are totally hit or miss. Once you've sized up the fellow GLBT passengers, some people feel like they've done it. You have met, you say hi when you see each other, but you may not want to meet in a bar every day with the same people. It's a cruise... nothing is REQUIRED so you do what you want. I have also seen people come to the bar, sit there, act like they are not part of the group, observe the group, then leave. Then... the next day you find out that they are in fact gay and just wanted to check out the scene but not actually participate. Hey, what can you do right?
That being said... there a few tips that I think might be helpful to make your GLBT gatherings.
First off, as with any party, it is what you make it. If someone doesn't take the lead, be the first to say Hi. If someone looks a little lost, ask them if they are looking for the GLBT gathering, the worst thing they could say is "No". We have moved chairs around, made the circle bigger and done all kinds of things to make people feel welcome.
If the gathering is in a bar that is crowded suggest that you all try another venue. Take your drinks and make it a circuit party.
Beads!! Wear some... cruise critic people do... bring some for everyone and hand em out. Granted it's tacky but hey... it cuts the ice.
I have suggested having the meeting in the steam room... I swear it would be better attended... and I'm sorry... more fun. LOL
Bottom line, I think we have to take responsibility for ourselves and not expect cruise lines to turn any cruise into a Gay Cruise just because we can't figure out how to cut the ice with our fellow GLBT members. The ship is providing a space, promotion and recognition. Are we so shy that we can't take it from there? I also think it's important to remember, we are all on vacation. It's going to take a lot to get my lazy behind off my sanctuary chair at sunset to come see how everyone's day was. I'm often busy doing other things, being Gay is just one of them. My real life is full of obligations, going on the cruise is the counterbalance to that life, A GLBT gathering is not going to tip the scale back in the other direction but it is a choice to weigh in the scheme of my vacation day, and it's kind of low on the priority list.
Have a great Cruise no matter what!