Non Sailing Guests Experience

[jaybear1117]

I am thinking about having my wedding on a RCL ship this fall on embarkation day. We anticipate that most of our guests will be non sailing guests. I am a little concerned about the length of the reception being only two hours (for the formal sit down luncheon). I am concerned that my non sailing guests may think it is too short or a bit rushed. I am little worried that my guests will be irritated about waiting around for things to start (i.e. waiting for customs to clear the ship and then waiting an hour or so for the wedding ceremony to actually start).

Has anyone that has had an embarkation day wedding receive negative feedback from their non sailing guests?

[rollissaria]

I'm glad you posted this. I'm on the Carnival Victory, and though a lot of our guests are sailing, we have a handful that are not. I would also like to know what past brides have felt about this experience!

I guess my line of thinking is...we are all headed to Miami, and spending at least one day together (some more) there before the wedding. It must be worth it to them to want to make the trip, even if it is for a few hours on the ship. My biggest concern is how bad they might feel after boarding, seeing how awesome this ship is, and not wanting to leave but having to. Talk about a total bummer for them.

I am expecting the day to I by in a blue though...hopefully my guests take a moment to enjoy it!

[fldogmassage]

Here are my thoughts. For me it is immediate family, parents, siblings and their kids. So it is a chance for them to all get together. It is also an opportunity for them to see the ship and get excited to do a family cruise in the future. It is the experience of being on board and walking around. I have told everyone that although the reception is short, the wedding experience is over five hours. Being at the ship at 10:30 and not leaving til 3. They have a day to enjoy and be together. We are also doing dinner the night before so again time for the family to be together.

[lightskinedgyal]

I agree with the last post FLGDOG. I have a handful of non cruising guests but its there choice to come knowing the ceremony and wedding will be not too long. But they are coming the night before and i am having a dinner the night before so i think it is worth it if they want to see you get married. Otherwise its only pictures and video that they will see. Also flights to florida are so cheap its really a mini vacation for them.

[beachmonkey]

We are trying to make sure we set the expectations for the wedding for BOTH the sailing and non-sailing guests. This is new for at least 99.9% of our guests so we want to be sure to help them make the most of the experience by eliminating any confusion about where to go and what to expect. I also hope that it helps us share our love of cruising even if they are not sailing.

We are sailing on the NCL Breakaway one year before our wedding and want to take advantage of the chance to gather information for our wedding (location, cruise terminal process, etc).

Can anyone share the feedback from their guests?

[LilBlackDress]

We had a small wedding, 25 people, 13 sailing, 12 non. We didn't know how much time we would have with anyone sailing or not so we had a 'pizza and beer' party at the hotel the night before.

I was lucky the hotel let us use an inside/outside area to accommodate us since we didn't ask in advance. A lot of hotels have a banquet room they will let you use but you need to reserve it.

As for Day of...The sailing/non sailing guests get to explore the ship before the ceremony which can be exciting. Receptions fly by regardless if they are 2 hours or 6 hours, you just make the best of what you have.

I didn't get any complaints but it was mainly family.

[rxbxcca]

I'm about to have an embarkation wedding in 4 weeks and then it's just us two on the cruise. I'll post a review when I get back (and back to normal, hehe)! we're on Norwegian, but same thing... short ceremony and two-hour reception.

[gymbomb]

We had 15 sailing guests and 6 non-sailing guests, and we decided to not have a reception at all. 5 of our non-sailers (aunts*2/uncle/cousins*2) flew in the day before, and 1 (best man) flew in 2 days before to hang out w/ groom a bit. We all met up at the hotel the afternoon before, hung out in lobby some, had dinner together, hung out in lobby some the morning of the wedding, and car-pooled to the ship. Once on the ship they were able to walk around some, hang out together with other family members in the wedding venue, etc. Ceremony was pretty short, followed by cake + champagne + pictures. Were able to hang out for a good half hour or so after that before they had to leave.

4 of the non-sailers spent Friday afternoon and Saturday (wedding was Friday) touring Boston before flying home Sunday. 1 drove her rental car north to New Hampshire to hang out with an old friend for a few days before flying home. Only the best man flew home right after the wedding, but he'd flown in a day before everyone else and since we had paid for most of his plane ticket, his hotel room, his tux, food, etc. we didn't feel that bad about him not getting a long trip and long reception.

We chose what was best for us, told out guests up front what the options were and how short the wedding would be, and then let them choose what worked best for them, be it sailing with us, attending the wedding only, or not attending. There was a specialty restaurant dinner and a cocktail party later in the week for sailing guests somewhat in lieu of a reception, but I won't go into that here since this thread is about non-sailing guests

[jul1221]

Our non-sailing guests had no complaints. Well, actually 1 complaint, they all said they should have sailed. They didn't mind driving to the pier or wondering the ship before the ceremony. They all said they enjoyed the experience and still talk about the wedding every chance they get.

[lazydayz]

We had 30 non-sailing guests who all arrived before we did. Our bus arrived at 10:10. All of us were on the ship an hour later. Since the wedding was scheduled to begin at 12:45, we purchased Lido passes for the non-sailers.

Lunch was so good, three of the non-sailers actually booked at the port and joined us on the cruise. Not one guest complained about the wait or the shortness of the ceremony or reception, partly because most of them had been together for five hours.

[hering120912]

Originally Posted by jul1221

Our non-sailing guests had no complaints. Well, actually 1 complaint, they all said they should have sailed. They didn't mind driving to the pier or wondering the ship before the ceremony. They all said they enjoyed the experience and still talk about the wedding every chance they get.

Our guests had the same complaint! We had the sit down luncheon as well (but through Carnival), and the food was amazing. We told our guests ahead of time how long the reception was going to be and what to expect on embarkation day. Like Jul said, the only complaint was that they wished they were going with us! Good luck on your big day!

[gymbomb]

Originally Posted by jul1221

Our non-sailing guests had no complaints. Well, actually 1 complaint, they all said they should have sailed. They didn't mind driving to the pier or wondering the ship before the ceremony. They all said they enjoyed the experience and still talk about the wedding every chance they get.

I had an aunt, uncle, and 2 cousins who attended my wedding as non-sailing guests last summer. My aunt did NOT want to cruise. She and one of the cousins are meeting my mom and me in Ft. Lauderdale in just over 3 weeks for a "just the girls" spring break cruise Cousin is a senior in college and her spring break just happens to be the same week as the school I teach at!

[Artemis908]

I had 73 non-sailing guests. Many of them had very long waits because they were coming from PA to NY and arrived early, thinking they would hit more traffic.

I didn't have anyone complaint to me, but I honestly don't think they would say anything even if they did feel it took too long to get onboard and then the reception was short.

The comments I got were more like they were happy it wasn't drawn out, they thought it was an unique experience, and they enjoyed how low key it was.

[jaybear1117]

Thanks everyone for all of your responses. We have booked cruise on RCL Grandeur of the Seas and I can't wait :-)

[ducklite]

I've been a non-sailing guest on two cruise line weddings now, one on RCCL and one on Carnival. (Don't ask me which ships, I truly haven't a clue but neither was one of the newer super mega ships.)

In both cases we arrived at the port about 20 minutes prior to when we had been told to arrive. They took our passports to make sure we'd get off before the ship sailed.

We had to kill about an hour between when we got on board and when the wedding began, we walked around the ship a bit then had a drink at the bar. They did take our credit card as payment, by the way, as we didn't have a ship ID.

The Carnival wedding ceremony was nicer than the RCCL one. The RCCL ceremony seemed somewhat rushed, and we all felt like they were going through the motions. Both had a sit down dinner in a corner of one of the dining rooms after, with cake. The food was OK but not great at both. The Carnival cake was better. Neither of them were held in an actual chapel. The RCCL wedding was held in a bar with a lot of natural light through some floor to ceiling windows on one end of the ship, the CCL wedding was held in what seemed to be a banquet/meeting room.

The entire thing lasted a little over three hours before we were hustled off the ship in both cases.

I can't say that it my favorite way to attend a wedding, but it was fine. We expected the whole thing to be short and sweet, and we were glad that we were able to see our friends get married. That's the whole point, right?