The college I attended was near DW in a segregated area....shot guns & pickup trucks...I could never figure out how a company could be so "inclusive" and yet be in an area where if you were not white you were not welcome......being from the New York I was totally offended and could not wait to leave.That doesn't sound pretty. I'm not going to try and change your mind - but we enjoy goinng - we go when most kids are in school and eat in most restaurants where kids should behave. Your right - the parents are to blame - but we usually manage just fine. They have a great food & wine festival each year - definitely adult oriented.
My partner & I are not into theme park entertainment / cruises(restaurants, DW, Malls) so DW has little attraction for us. Then the kid factor....I really like kids but I believe there is a time a place...so dinner @9:30pm w/ a screaming 6 year old does not make a vacation for us(or a pool full of kids...etc.) usually I blame the parents not the kids.
The Gay Days always were very popular at DW...now I understand how DW gets around not "offending" anyone(meaning corporate profits never shall suffer due to doing the right thing outright).
By the way there are places all over like you dewscribed - it's unfortunate but true.
NCL Spirit 9/2006 Eastern Caribbean
CCL Miracle 9/2008
CCL Pride 6/5/2011
NCL Star 9/9/2012 Bermuda
Carnival Splendor 9/30/13
NCL Gem 4/5//2014
CCL Pride 4/19/15
NCL Gem 3/12/16
Celebrity Summit 4/29/18