Does anyone do the FOD/LGBT gatherings?

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Originally posted by starri
Would that that was completely true.

I hear you. Sometimes I feel as though it is geography. Some places are safer than others. And some cruises (not cruise lines per se) are safer than others. I recently did a b2b on NCL. The first ten day felt really safe we often shared tables and all seemed okay. The second had a far different tone. While playing Yahtzee in spinnaker I had to listen to a drunken bridal party which contained members who said incredibly homophobic things. I was surprised. But not shocked. Overall I still felt safe but knew to be more wary.


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I always try to attend early on in the cruise and make the best of it. Sometimes I stroll into the bar with a few snaps a say "It's Friends of Dorothy time, let's get this party started" and that seems to help.


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Minnesota
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Originally posted by jeffdal
I always try to attend early on in the cruise and make the best of it. Sometimes I stroll into the bar with a few snaps a say "It's Friends of Dorothy time, let's get this party started" and that seems to help.


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Well...I hope there are others like you on our Escape cruise in September - it's so much more fun when people put themselves out there and meet people!

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Connecticut
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Originally posted by jeffdal
I always try to attend early on in the cruise and make the best of it. Sometimes I stroll into the bar with a few snaps a say "It's Friends of Dorothy time, let's get this party started" and that seems to help.


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That beats the sort of wandering around looking for anyone who might be gay and there for the Friends of Dorothy Meeting. The cruise lines need to make it a little easier to find one another.
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Michigan
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Joined Jun 2014
I go. Sometimes it clicks and is a cruise highlight, and other times it's a bust. It's always worth a shot. I make a point of going the first two nights. On Carnival, it seems to work best on the ships with an Alchemy Bar--the menu and drink selection seems to be a natural ice breaker, and the staff also get conversations started to figure out your "prescription."
Chicago
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Joined Sep 2014
We always go just to see what's going on and possibly meet new people. Depending on time of year and itinerary, attendance can be zilch, to friendly, to aloof and intimidating. On our last AK cruise on Princess, we traveled with another gay couple and with the exception of another rather cool younger couple, nobody ever attended. It was nice, however, to have the Adagio bar completely to ourselves for a pre-dinner cocktail every night. These were listed in the daily Patter. On the Carnival Vista this last Christmas, we met evenings in the Alchemy bar before and after dinner, and we found a group of the most friendly LGBT people we've ever encountered on a cruise. Subgroups of us would get together for dinner, shows, and even trivia. Guess who won the Broadway, television, and movies trivia? It was really fun. Prior to that, I hadn't had much luck at their LGBT gatherings. Generally, the meetings would be in the piano bar and it was already busy with other cruisers so there was this kind of walking around the place with an sense of wondering as to "are you...?" Plus that made it a little less intimate for getting to know people, as they were scattered among the other passengers.
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Oakland California
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We usually try to attend at least the first one. Sometimes they just click and other times not. The very best that we have attended was on the Queen Mary 2 last year. Very well attended and fun with people from many countries. We met a German guy who told us of seeing American GIs during WWII and how handsome they were. The ship served hors d'oeuvres during the meeting. The guy who cuts my hair told me of a couple of his clients who asked the captain on their ship if it was OK for them to dance together. They were told that he supposed that it was ok but that they might upset other passengers. This was a very high-end cruise line and they had sailed dozens of times with them. On the QM2 a couple of the (male) dance hosts (they are NOT gigolos) attended the FOD and I asked them about that. They said that they would dance with ANY passenger if asked, not just the ladies. A Belgian/Swedish male couple won the ships dance contest. They are same-sex ballroom dancers. As you can tell we had a delightful time on the ship and at the FOD.
Oakland California
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The newsletter for the next day had a note that Friends of Bill W. meetings, LGBT meetings, and other (unspecified) meetings could be found on the bulletin board. It did not list the location of the bulletin board. I don't know how far in advance the newsletters are printed, so I don't know if the inclusion of LGBT was in response to my request.

Oddly, the LGBT reference was only in the newsletter that one day. For the rest of the cruise, the newsletter referred passengers to the bulletin board for Friends of Bill W. meetings and other (again, unspecified) passenger meetings.


Speaking of Friends of Bill W, we were once on a Princess Cruise to Alaska. The Friends of Dorothy were meeting at the Champagne Bar and having an enjoyable time. A woman came up to us and asked if ladies were welcome and of course we said yes. One of the guys started talking about his lesbian sister and the woman got a strange look on her face. She then asked us if this was the AA group. Poor lady. She must have wondered why all of the "alcoholics" were having cocktails. Needless to say, she left quickly. I hope that it gave her a good story to tell.
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Joined Dec 2016
Originally posted by dekohman
Well...I hope there are others like you on our Escape cruise in September - it's so much more fun when people put themselves out there and meet people!

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My husband and I will be on the Escape for the Sept 23rd sailing
arizona
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Joined Dec 2016
Originally posted by dekohman
Fantastic! We'll be hitting the happy hour as often as we can.

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This will be our first cruise so looking forward to all the activites the ship has to offer. We will be celebrating our first anniversary but together for 40 years.