Anyone's spouse not into cruising? (Gasp!)

[Max and Ruby]

My DH also doesn't like cruising, but I nagged him into it this summer with tales of "let's see the Mayan ruins while the kids are in the kids club." He's more of a hiker/outdoorsy type. He goes on hikes with the guys and I have gone on cruises with a girlfriend (whose husband also doesn't like to cruise.) That will end for me though because not my fault I got a sinus infection last cruise with her and "I was no fun". Sorry chills and nausea will do that to you (the Z pac is very powerful 1st dose!).

But with my 2 DD's getting older I may take just them if they like to cruise, or suck it up and pay 200% for solo price.

[bunchesofun]

When we booked the first cruise last year, DH was not looking forward to it. He thought that he would feel confined on the ship. Well he loved it and is very much looking forward to our next cruise. So if you can get him to go with you, he might turn out to like it.

[carhopsrock]

We made a deal years ago...I wont bug him to cruise with me if he doesnt bug me to go fishing with him. I do invite him every time I get ready to book a cruise, just in case he changes his mind.

[reno3]

My DH has gone on all of our cruises. He could care less either way. We returned home from the Pride two weeks ago and he said he does not want to go on another one for awhile We had a great time he just could careless. Our DS will graduate from high school next year and I wanted to do one more cruise next April for a grad. gift and before he goes off to college. DH said he does not want to go and for the two of us to go no problem. DH said it will be a vacation for him to be home without us

[gone_cruisin]

Mine was a slightly different problem.

My EX introduced me to cruising and got me hooked. The problem I kept running into was that he was insistant on occupying all 3 of his vacation weeks around NASCAR races. I could never get him to give up one week for us to cruise. When he finally got a 4th week, I thought for sure I'd be home free.....but instead he decided to pull out the NASCAR schedule and find a new race to attend.

Then the other excuse I would hear, would be money. All vacation money had to be spend for racing and then only if there was anything left could we talk about a different vacation.

Left the man and never looked back!

[iamwmn32]

Originally Posted by CruzerDeb

So, does anyone have a spouse that's not really into cruising?

For my first cruise, I took my then 15 and 13 year-old daughters on a spring break trip. DH prefers to ski. Spring break was late in the season (like April 12), so skiing was out for the girls. He went skiing in March and we went cruising in April (2009). I must say, this was the BEST vacation I ever took (with or without DH).

We're now planning our second Girls' Cruise for next June. Again, DH would rather spend his vacation money skiing (he says he'll die of he doesn't get to ski out West). For background, I've gone on at least 10 ski trips out West with him (and our girls went several times). I don't enjoy skiing anymore. Too much work!

He says that he'll cruise with my in the future when it's just he and I, but I have my doubts.

Reading all the great threads here and seeing all the pictures of couples enjoying the cruising experience together really makes me sad. So what do you do if your spouse doesn't like to cruise?

I love to cruise and my husband is just not into it. He will go if I really want him to go but he has no problem with me going without him. He goes stir crazy on the sea days. He did cruise with me in 2011 and he is going on a 7 night cruise with me in March 2013. I enjoy vacationing very much with my husband and that is why we always have at least 1 vacation together a year. This year we are flying to Costa Rica in June.
If your husband doesn't have a problem with you cruising without him and you have no problem with him skiing without you, I say keep it up but try to make time for a little getaway for just the two of you every so often.

[pbmsmile]

Thats what we do too. My husband enjoysncruising but niot near as much as I do. I have taken one with each of my 3 adult children, and have one planned in August with my daughter again and one next march with my sister. I enjoy going with the hubby too but we are both teachers at different schools and our Spring breaks do not always mesh. This works for us. Some with...some without!

[scgamecock]

Originally Posted by CruzerDeb

So, does anyone have a spouse that's not really into cruising?... So what do you do if your spouse doesn't like to cruise?

My ex was not into cruising at all. That's one of the big reasons she's an ex.

[bluehenfan]

My non cruising husband isn't mine, but my best friends. She and I love traveling and especially cruising, but her husband is like my late husband was, a stay at home kind of guy. He will drive us to the airport and pick us up and wants to know all about our latest adventure, but never showed any interest in going himself. For their 25 wedding anniversary my friend surprised him by booking a cruise on the Dream for the two of them. She was so excited. He hated it. Never wanted to do anything but sit on their cove balcony and smoke his cigars ( bet their "neighbors" loved that !! ) . Never went to a show, a deck party,nothing.... She sat in the room playing solitare. He said , "never again !!" when they got home and she and I are happily planning our next cruise while her husband can't thank me enough for being her cruise buddy and sparing him the torture of another week at sea !!!

[cclimoman]

My DW has now gone on several cruises, but now insists that the quality of the dining has gone down to such a point that she does not want to cruise again for some time. My 7 year old son and I both would choose cruising every time, and I could not imagine going on a seperate vacation.

Our solution is that we will alternate vacation destinations annually, of course with some influence and planning of the other spouse. So it would appear that one year will be land based and the next will be on the seas.

PS I have to agree with her that our last two cruises, (Valor 03/11 and Liberty 03/12).....the quality of many of the food items seems to have regressed.

I am a big fan of the Carnival 2.0 changes however...

[partman57]

My DW has had trouble with the patch last cruise and she is now anti cruise. We are going
on a cruise this August but only reason she is going is my daughter is going with her family and wants DW and I along. It will be her first cruise. I am going to keep feeding her Ginger
tabs and NO PATCH....Hope it works.

[beach410]

OP I know exactly how you feel! When your best friend doesn't share that passion it is sad, I know first hand. Sure, going with the girls is fun, but its not the same. I'm always a bit jealous of the happy couples who share this addiction.

[reno3]

Originally Posted by reno3

My DH has gone on all of our cruises. He could care less either way. We returned home from the Pride two weeks ago and he said he does not want to go on another one for awhile We had a great time he just could careless. Our DS will graduate from high school next year and I wanted to do one more cruise next April for a grad. gift and before he goes off to college. DH said he does not want to go and for the two of us to go no problem. DH said it will be a vacation for him to be home without us

Now DH says he wants to go I was ready to book one of those cabins with the real loooong balconies for two!!!

[cruisenanny]

Originally Posted by partman57

My DW has had trouble with the patch last cruise and she is now anti cruise. We are going
on a cruise this August but only reason she is going is my daughter is going with her family and wants DW and I along. It will be her first cruise. I am going to keep feeding her Ginger
tabs and NO PATCH....Hope it works.

Is she not able to take meclizine (Bonine) orally? It can work wonders taken once daily at bedtime (starting the night before the cruise), even for folks who have had unwanted side effects from the patch.
Of course I am NOT trying to give you medical advise, just a tip you may want to check into! Have a great cruise in August

[buddylover]

I have empathy for you....my DH was the same way, couldn't get him convinced, just kept saying it would be boring, he didn't want to be cooped up on a ship..yada, yada. Finally I took the plunge and just booked a cruise, told him he HAD to try it, if he didn't like it we wouldn't do it again.....guess what? He is a bigger cruise addict than me. The minute he walks onto the ship he wants to book the next one....his excitement beats mine each and every time (and he doesn't get too excited over very much). So for those who haven't "tried" cruising....just book one and see what happens!!! It worked for me.

[canlin1]

My husband will not consider a cruise. He thinks it is unsafe to travel outside of the U.S. He isn't happy I go out of the country, so I made a deal with him to only cruise the Caribbean or Mexico while he is still living. Altho right now, Mexico isn't where I want to go. He did say he would do an Alaskan cruise, knowing I would never go where it was cold. So, my sister & I have happily cruised without him for the past 10 years, and will continue this September. We take vacations together, just us or with our kids and grandkids. He generally goes to the races in Talladega when I cruise in April (usually) or visits family in Tn. when we cruise in Sept. It works.

[ccletzgo]

I spend alot of time with him fishing. He spends alot of time with me cruising. Give and take.. married almost 33 years.

[Andoria]

Originally Posted by CruzerDeb

So, does anyone have a spouse that's not really into cruising?

For my first cruise, I took my then 15 and 13 year-old daughters on a spring break trip. DH prefers to ski. Spring break was late in the season (like April 12), so skiing was out for the girls. He went skiing in March and we went cruising in April (2009). I must say, this was the BEST vacation I ever took (with or without DH).

We're now planning our second Girls' Cruise for next June. Again, DH would rather spend his vacation money skiing (he says he'll die of he doesn't get to ski out West). For background, I've gone on at least 10 ski trips out West with him (and our girls went several times). I don't enjoy skiing anymore. Too much work!

He says that he'll cruise with my in the future when it's just he and I, but I have my doubts.

Reading all the great threads here and seeing all the pictures of couples enjoying the cruising experience together really makes me sad. So what do you do if your spouse doesn't like to cruise?

While leaving port, hop into a hot tub with a bunch of men and get loaded. Wait until your husband finds you to remind you that it's dinner time and take a picture of his facial expression. Not that I have any experience in this area

It was completely out of character for me. So before I booked this cruise I asked my SO if he was interested in cruising again and he said "I'll likely hate it but sign me up." I'm guessing he'll be on every cruise.

[sprint180]

my dh doesn't have any desire to cruise, I on the other hand love it (only went once) I would find something else we like to do together but he always says he just can't possibly get away. Well, I choose not to set home all the time. I am willing to go without him, although I would rather go with him. My problem is finding someone to go with. We live in Nebraska and it is expensive to fly to everywhere Plus the cruise. I say take the girls and have fun.

[TabFox]

*sigh*....my spouse has NO desire to cruise, or go anywhere! "I can see what I want on TV." Needless to say, I have supported him in EVERY "business adventure" that he's wanted to do. His excuse(s) for not cruising are:
I can't swim (don't jump overboard)
I don't want to leave the dogs (your sister will feed them)
I can't afford for both of us to go (yet you can afford multiple vehicles, lawn mowers, tools, etc etc etc)
I might like it and then will want to go and can't afford it (yet you bought another trailer for your lawn mowers that would have paid for a few cruises)
I'll get seasick (take a pill)

I'm going on my fifth cruise next week. All have been with my Mom and nieces, or girlfriends. I get so envious of couples on board, and traveling, or just enjoying each others company.
Wow.....this sounds pretty grim LOLOL
Oh well, I will continue to cruise and travel. I have to live while I'm alive!