Anyone's spouse not into cruising? (Gasp!)

[dadof2boys]

So I think I am only the third male on here who's DW is not as into cruising. At first she hated it, then indifferent, presently enjoying it thanks to an awesome trip on the Spirit (which she now calls our "timeshare"). Im working her up to obsessed. We'll see how that goes. Might just be a personality difference. To the o.p.: I think it's time he gives something new a try. My DW has gone on many cruises and I know she really wants to do a land based vacation. So next year I'm going to let her pick, especially coming off a year of five cruises! She's truly a saint to help support my mission to become platinum. I'm even dragging the toddlers into this.

We've been married 10 years and I am still way to codependent to let either one of us travel without the other. I bet she would actually enjoy a little break from the three of us boys. Not gonna happen, they're just as bad as I am.

[vegadog2]

Originally Posted by CruzerDeb

So, does anyone have a spouse that's not really into cruising?

For my first cruise, I took my then 15 and 13 year-old daughters on a spring break trip. DH prefers to ski. Spring break was late in the season (like April 12), so skiing was out for the girls. He went skiing in March and we went cruising in April (2009). I must say, this was the BEST vacation I ever took (with or without DH).

We're now planning our second Girls' Cruise for next June. Again, DH would rather spend his vacation money skiing (he says he'll die of he doesn't get to ski out West). For background, I've gone on at least 10 ski trips out West with him (and our girls went several times). I don't enjoy skiing anymore. Too much work!

He says that he'll cruise with my in the future when it's just he and I, but I have my doubts.

Reading all the great threads here and seeing all the pictures of couples enjoying the cruising experience together really makes me sad. So what do you do if your spouse doesn't like to cruise?

WOW Sounds like my DW and I. My Wife would go cruise with her sisters go to Europe with her sisters and I would stay and take care of BUSINESS.I had a very serious heart ATTACK (well are there any other kinds of heart attacks other than serious) I had bypass surgery with what they call a door.(cut part of your heart off.)The new ME had a better understanding of what is important.I was in the hospital for like a month.I did rehab at the house for 4 months.

The story I have just told was 6 years ago.My wife and I have been on SEVERAL cruises together and have one planned on the LEGEND for sept 30th.What a GREAT amount of precious time I have wasted.I am a regular on cruise critic now KINDA hooked on cruising.

[vegadog2]

Originally Posted by CruzerDeb

So, does anyone have a spouse that's not really into cruising?

For my first cruise, I took my then 15 and 13 year-old daughters on a spring break trip. DH prefers to ski. Spring break was late in the season (like April 12), so skiing was out for the girls. He went skiing in March and we went cruising in April (2009). I must say, this was the BEST vacation I ever took (with or without DH).

We're now planning our second Girls' Cruise for next June. Again, DH would rather spend his vacation money skiing (he says he'll die of he doesn't get to ski out West). For background, I've gone on at least 10 ski trips out West with him (and our girls went several times). I don't enjoy skiing anymore. Too much work!

He says that he'll cruise with my in the future when it's just he and I, but I have my doubts.

Reading all the great threads here and seeing all the pictures of couples enjoying the cruising experience together really makes me sad. So what do you do if your spouse doesn't like to cruise?

WOW Sounds like my DW and I. My Wife would go cruise with her sisters go to Europe with her sisters and I would stay and take care of BUSINESS.I had a very serious heart ATTACK (well are there any other kinds of heart attacks other than serious) I had bypass surgery with what they call a door.(cut part of your heart off.)The new ME had a better understanding of what is important.I was in the hospital for like a month.I did rehab at the house for 4 months.

The story I have just told was 6 years ago.My wife and I have been on SEVERAL cruises together and have one planned on the LEGEND for sept 30th.What a GREAT amount of precious time I have wasted.I am a regular on cruise critic now KINDA hooked on cruising.

[IslandToIsland]

Originally Posted by cruisenanny

We would have to consider shock therapy, hypnosis, medication, etc..

LOL....perfect remedy!

[Chip1]

Since 1990 my dad has basically given up doing any type of travel. The only time he has traveled was for 1 wedding and 2 funerals. From September 1990 through late March 2010 I went on 32 cruises. 31 of the cruises were myself and my mom. The other cruise I went on with my mom, my oldest sister and her son. While we were on the cruises my dad would do work around the house. The type of work he did was things like paint, install tile backsplashes in bathrooms and the kitchen and one time installed a prefinished floor in the entrance hall.

[Shaded Lady]

In the past few years I've gone on a cruise with my fellow Red Hatters- needless to say my hubby opted to stay home! but I swore after the last one that I'd never cruise again without him! Fortunately he loves cruising as much as I do, so it was a happy day last month when we booked our Paradise cruise for July! Can't wait!

[misguidedangel]

My SIL wants to go on on a cruise, but my brother tends to get a little seasick when he is on a boat or a ship. He also would rather spend his vacation time at a nascar race track watching a stupic car race. Doesn't like beaches, doesn't like trooical paradises, no would rather watch cars go around and around and around in a circle emitting gases that are slowing killing this planet.....He was going to go on a "girls only" cruise with three friends, well she had the money, but he said no cuz he would want to go to and he doesn't want to cruise, but she doesn't want to spend vacation time at a racetrack watching a stupid car race for endless hours when they could be on a beach or shopping and catch highlights later.....

[Gtownmom]

If u can just get him to try it... he might like it. I talked cruise for a looonnnggg time, many years. Never could get hubby interested. He thought it would be boring. HA! In advance of our 25th wedding anniversary, we were talking about a trip... He said lets take a cruise! As soon as I picked myself up off the floor, it was booked. He loved it! Have been on a couple more in the last 2 years and another booked.

[beach410]

Originally Posted by Gtownmom

If u can just get him to try it... he might like it. I talked cruise for a looonnnggg time, many years. Never could get hubby interested. He thought it would be boring. HA! In advance of our 25th wedding anniversary, we were talking about a trip... He said lets take a cruise! As soon as I picked myself up off the floor, it was booked. He loved it! Have been on a couple more in the last 2 years and another booked.

Youre lucky, in my case he concedes it's the most economical way to vacation, he just doesn't care for it. Hes not an addict like myself and more of a home body. I like one of the others suggestion, shock therapy lol!

[thshhh]

I have been trying to talk one of my best friends into a cruise for years. Her reasoning has always been that the ship is out in the middle of the ocean and you can't see land.

I have finally talked her into it. We are booked on the Liberty in Sept. I am certain she will love cruising as much as we do once she's tried it!!!!

[myno911]

My DW loves to cruise but out right refuses to go during hurricane season. I am wanting to go on either a 4 or 5 day one in Oct. but she refuses to go and I don't want to go by myself.

[partman57]

Originally Posted by cruisenanny

Is she not able to take meclizine (Bonine) orally? It can work wonders taken once daily at bedtime (starting the night before the cruise), even for folks who have had unwanted side effects from the patch.
Of course I am NOT trying to give you medical advise, just a tip you may want to check into! Have a great cruise in August

We will use Bonine also..I told her I will make her take one the day we leave the house heading for Florida. Thanks we hope it will be fun and she has a great cruise.

[okwriter]

Originally Posted by CruzerDeb

So what do you do if your spouse doesn't like to cruise?

I go without him.

I just returned from my fifth cruise, and he only went on one of them. Thankfully, I have good friends who got bit by the cruise bug with me, and now I've corrupted my sisters, too.

[vamartha]

It took me 27 years to get my DH to cruise.

I didn't fool around with a shorter cruise but booked 7 nights out of Miami. I figured he was going to love it - or he was going to hate it and I might as well have a good time!

Guess what? He loved it and has been on one cruise since then and we plan to cruise again this fall!

[ljslight]

So I was telling my husband, who doesn't want to cruise on my next cruise, about this thread. I told him about shock therapy and the other funny ideas......he went to bed mad at me! But he was over it the next day. Darn, I need to learn to keep my mouth shut!
Little does he know I am planing another cruise with John Heald Bloggers in 2014!

[42CruiseCrazy]

I am also a male (definitely a minority) who's spouse does not like to cruise. Mine WILL NOT get on a ship and go out to sea. It is like a phobia. I went on my first cruise 5 years ago and loved it so much that I now go once or twice a year and she encourages me (wonderful woman that she is) to enjoy myself. The only time we have a "disagreement" about cruising is when I have tried to coax her to come with me. Since I stopped doing that we are both happy. I miss her when on a cruise without her but not enough to give up cruising (what a surprise!!!!!)

[asalligo]

So I do not fancy myself a catch in any form, but in February on the cruise with the wife and kids I got hit on every time I went anywhere alone. All 40+ women. It started getting funny toward the end of the cruise and I started wondering, how many married women are taking these cruises and looking for something like this. Of course all of these women may have been single, but I would not want my wife cruising alone.

Now if you are a single man above the age of 40 and looking for a good time, you should be on these boats every chance you get.

[Kato27]

I couldn't cruise or do any kind of vacation without my wife.
We fight, we laugh, we love, she is my best friend, it just wouldn't be the same without her.

[pyropoodle]

Originally Posted by asalligo

So I do not fancy myself a catch in any form, but in February on the cruise with the wife and kids I got hit on every time I went anywhere alone. All 40+ women. It started getting funny toward the end of the cruise and I started wondering, how many married women are taking these cruises and looking for something like this. Of course all of these women may have been single, but I would not want my wife cruising alone.

Now if you are a single man above the age of 40 and looking for a good time, you should be on these boats every chance you get.

I told my DH, who wouldn't cruise with me this past January, "what happens on the ship, stays on the ship".

Now, I would never, ever cheat on him, but if he's not there I will shamelessly flirt...and I confess I DID! I met some great ladies from New Orleans on that cruise and we acted like a bunch of single ladies...we just had a great time. great CLEAN fun, but my DH would have never gone to the club with me if he were cruising, so this was my chance to let my hair down and enjoy myself. I missed him on the ship, but I made my own fun.

[CruzerDeb]

Originally Posted by vegadog2

WOW Sounds like my DW and I. My Wife would go cruise with her sisters go to Europe with her sisters and I would stay and take care of BUSINESS.I had a very serious heart ATTACK (well are there any other kinds of heart attacks other than serious) I had bypass surgery with what they call a door.(cut part of your heart off.)The new ME had a better understanding of what is important.I was in the hospital for like a month.I did rehab at the house for 4 months.

The story I have just told was 6 years ago.My wife and I have been on SEVERAL cruises together and have one planned on the LEGEND for sept 30th.What a GREAT amount of precious time I have wasted.I am a regular on cruise critic now KINDA hooked on cruising.

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I'm glad that you've been healthy and able to take up cruising with your wife! Life's too short.