@Sthrngary Thank you so much for your insight. I for one, appreciated it greatly (and picked up a couple of tips!).
We are now "Haven or Bust"' as once we experienced it, we will never go back to "gen pop". We have sailed Haven twice (Epic and Getaway), with our third trip coming up in January (Breakaway). To us, it's worth the extra money for all that we get. Plus we go on one vacation a year (damn jobs) so we want it to be fantastic. We have loved our experiences, from the bar (best service by far) to the food to the priority embarkation to the reserved seating at shows to the butler and concierge and all the rest.
I too tip all the way through the cruise and at the end. That is my choice. I save my $5 bills throughout the year so I have plenty to use; I also give them mini candy canes (all our other cruises were before Christmas so I may have to re-think my candy choice) and they LOVE it; last year I was the Candy Cane Lady. I usually get a bigger response from the candy than the $$. And whether it's the money or the candy or my sparkling personality, they know my name and what I drink (and when it comes to the Haven bartenders, what I drink depending on the time of the day - I can't say enough about them). As has been said so many times - ad nausuem - tipping is personal preference; if you don't want to do it, don't, if you do, go for it! It makes me happy to make other people happy - even if I have to pay for it.
We have been lucky in our experience and not had issues with unruly children. I don't have a lot of patience with said unruly children (or unruly adults for that matter) so if we had, we might have a different outlook on the issue. I can say however, that no amount of unruliness would spoil a cruise for me. If I am bothered by something, I will get a drink and move on. Life is too short (and the cruise too short) to allow things such as this to dictate your experiences. There's always the casino!!
Thanks again for your insight. - Jen
PS - did I mention how much we have loved the Haven bartenders? 🤣