It's pretty simple how the thread got diverted: it's evident the standards for "Smart Casual" nights have gone down the same sewer pipe as the "Formal Night" standards. Everything is optional or a matter of opinion or "Look at me! I'm such a rebel in my shorts on formal night!" or "Nobody's gonna tell ME how to act!" ad nauseam.
I had this small, tiny hope that decorum would prevail in an environment (aboard ship) where it used to be expected and enforced. It's not anymore just like everything else in our "brave, new world" modern society. As I mentioned in another thread, my last cruise before the one we just completed was 10 years ago. A lot has changed, virtually NOTHING for the better.
I wore a uniform most of my adult life (Army, Deputy Sheriff, Airline Captain). I'm used to structured environments where actual standards of performance and appearance are established and enforced and it's at odds with the virtual non-existent "suggestions" of today.
I know the culture war is lost; we've been overrun by the "standardless". It's just sad to see.