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I would say 13 is old enough to be out alone for more than a short time. A 10 year old could go up to the buffet for a quick snack, provided they are coming right back to the room, or to the pool alone for a half hour but no more than that. By 16 I would feel safe letting them go to activities without checking in as regularly (still with a specific curfew), just as I would do at home with a child with a drivers license.. Just running around with no destination in mind? When they can afford to pay for their own trip.This makes a lot of sense to me. our DD's are now 16 (almost 17) and 12. We've taken them on cruises for years. IMHO, cruises are a good place to try out small doses of independence and build up. My teenager just left to drive to a restaurant at the mall to meet some friends for dinner. If I trust her to do that, how could I not trust her to walk around unsupervised on a cruise ship? The reason that I trust her is that we've built up trust over a period of years, starting small and building up. My 12 year old, on the other hand, is much more shy. She's not in any hurry to venture out on her own, even to go to the buffet on the cruise ship, so I don't push her. I'm sure that any day now, she'll decide I'm too uncool to hang around with.
We set rules for my 12 year old and made her sign a "cruise contract". I'll try to attach a copy of it.I -----------------, agree to the following rules and Mom and dad can add rules as they see fit.
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This makes a lot of sense to me. our DD's are now 16 (almost 17) and 12. We've taken them on cruises for years. IMHO, cruises are a good place to try out small doses of independence and build up. My teenager just left to drive to a restaurant at the mall to meet some friends for dinner. If I trust her to do that, how could I not trust her to walk around unsupervised on a cruise ship? The reason that I trust her is that we've built up trust over a period of years, starting small and building up. My 12 year old, on the other hand, is much more shy. She's not in any hurry to venture out on her own, even to go to the buffet on the cruise ship, so I don't push her. I'm sure that any day now, she'll decide I'm too uncool to hang around with.My son was a graduating senior on my last cruise, so I decided not to give him a curfew. My reasoning was, in a few months he was going to be off to college, living in a dorm that I am paying for. If I can't trust him on a cruise ship then I am wasting my time and money. He is now away having classes Mon-Thur and three day weekends. Ok, I did happen to drop by unannounced in areas I know he was hanging out. He learned very quickly what I knew all along, there isn't much to do after a certain hour. Now, compared to how I was raised I am a overprotective, hovering, paranoid parent I walked 3 miles, up hill both way, in the sun, without shoes, to kindergarten.
I -----------------, agree to the following rules and Mom and dad can add rules as they see fit.I will adapt this for our use if that's ok with you!
KIDS CRUISE CONTRACT
This needs to be an exciting and educational trip for all. We want you to have fun, and at the same
time be safe, and courteous to others on the ship. We want to bring you home in the same happy health
condition in which you board the ship. We have set up a few rules that must be followed. Any bending of
these rules, or stretching the interpretation of these rules will result in the remainder of the cruise
spent with none other than your loving mother and dad. Final say will always be your mother and Ryan.
1)The meeting the first night in the teen club is required. Most teens from what I have been reading do not
hang out there but chose that as a meeting point. The first meeting is required as that is when the parents
sign informational papers for each child for you to participate. It is also when and where the introductions
take place of fellow teen cruisers and the staff inside the teen club. This information must be filled out if
you happen to decide to take part in any of the teen activities organized by the cruise ship.
2)Under no circumstances are you to go to anybody’s cabin nor is anybody allowed to come to ours.
3)You will not go through any of the cabin areas/hallways. There is absolutely no reason for you to be in any of
these locations except to return to your own cabin.
4)You will not be playing around on the elevators. For example: pushing the buttons to every floor.
5)You do not accept a drink of any kind from anybody other than mom, dad, or anyone in our group or one that you
have ordered and is brought to you by cruise ship staff. Nor will you leave your drink unattended. If it is
left unattended you are required to order another one. There are sick people out there......
6)You will be required to check in at a specific time set by mom and/or dad and different intervals throughout the day.
You will also tell us where you are going, what you will be doing and who you will be with. This is so if plans change for
us we can find you to tell you.
7)If you are in our cabin alone, you will be required to have the do not disturb sign posted. Not even crew members (room steward)
are to be in there when you are by yourself.
8)You will be required to join us for all evening meals in the dining room. We have the early seating so you will be required to
be back to the cabin and ready to go at the assigned time. Make sure you allow enough time to get ready.
9)If you decide to swim, you will be courteous to the adults in the pool. No splashing or “cannon balls” to be cute.
Be courteous of adults swimming laps for exercise. Stay out of their way.
10)You will not be obnoxious whether we are with you or you are without us. We expect you to be well mannered using please,
thank you, and excuse me at all times. Hold the doors for adults that are passing through at the same time as you,
allow people to get off of the elevator before you step on. Just because somebody is rude does not give you the right to be rude.
11)Absolutely no running on the ship!
12)No butting in line at the buffet. And do not take more than you can eat. If you are still hungry you can go back for more.
There is plenty of food. I’m sure they plan for people with bigger appetites than yours.
13)Absolutely no cell phone!!!I will have mine.
14) No excessive amount of sugar and junk food. (You know what is exceptable and what isnt)