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I'm a cruise addict, and also recently remarried. My new hubby doesn't have any interest in cruising. So I am going on my next one without him (which I booked before we were together.)

 

Just wondering how unusual, or not, this is? :eek:

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I have never cruised without DH and have no wish to but there are a fair number of people who sail without spouse/partner. You would not be thought of as 'highly unusual' if that concerns you. :)

 

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Have only cruised with hubby once to Alaska. The rest have been with my BFF. She and I also do land vacations together withour our respective DH's.

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It's all well and good cruising with your spouse if he/she also likes cruising. But you should not have to give up something you enjoy just because your spouse does not. There will likely be a number of solos on your cruise. Some may be there because they prefer the freedom of sailing alone and some because nobody had the desire/time/funds to cruise with them. Enjoy your cruise. Who knows, it might sound so great when you talk about it, hubby could decide to try a cruise!

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I'm a cruise addict, and also recently remarried. My new hubby doesn't have any interest in cruising. So I am going on my next one without him (which I booked before we were together.)

 

Just wondering how unusual, or not, this is? :eek:

Not at all unusual.

People may cruise without a spouse for numerous reasons.

 

One enjoys cruising and the other doesn't.

One has other plans or obligations scheduled when the opportunity for the cruise comes up, or just can't get away from work at that time.

Sometimes it is a group cruise with family, or friends, or a club or college reunion that appeals to one and not the other.

Sometimes it is a work related cruise, with seminars on board in which the spouse has no interest.

Girlfriends who are not football addicts will book cruises together during football season when their husbands can't tear themselves away from the games.

Some (of either gender) manage to find an excuse to avoid a cruise with the in-laws.

One spouse may stay home to care for a sick relative, or even a pet.

Sometimes one spouse may just want some quiet time alone, for whatever reason.

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I couldn't imagine going on any vacation with out DH. He's my BFF. I have had to take business trips without him and hated it. But that is our relationship after 25 years. We have friends and family who have no problem going on vacation without each other. It's just not for us.

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My husband and I cruise together once a year (some of which were before we were married) and we love our vacations together. However, I get a LOT more vacation time from work than he does, so for the last 2 years I have also gone on a cruise with my Mom.

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You didn't have "Must Love Cruising" incorporated into your wedding vows :eek::D

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I have been on a few cruises with my hubby and boys for the holidays, but most of my cruises are with the ladies (including my mom who is widowed) and us gals go 2-3 times a year. I have the most understanding hubby. My mom can still travel and is 80 and I will continue to enjoy her company on cruises while we can. She is my best friend and we have so much fun together...

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Also cannot imagine cruising without D.W. But I do think it is good for those who must to go alone or with friends. I have met many ladies with husbands home have yet to meet husband with wife home.

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I have been on a few cruises with my hubby and boys for the holidays, but most of my cruises are with the ladies (including my mom who is widowed) and us gals go 2-3 times a year. I have the most understanding hubby. My mom can still travel and is 80 and I will continue to enjoy her company on cruises while we can. She is my best friend and we have so much fun together...

How lucky you are to still have Mom....I'll never forget the memories of cruising/traveling with my parents..who were my two best friends..I have an understanding hubby too that knew how important my spending time with them was while we could.

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During that time found out from my mother that she always in the back of her mind (same as me) had dreamt to go on a cruise. My mum just had an operation for cancer and we promised each other that if she would be strong enough to travel to N.Z. from Holland after she had recouperated, she would pay for the flight and I would take care of all the cruise and related expenses.

 

The Universe looked after her and off we went cruising around the Pacific.:D

I became a cruise nut after that and Mum went on another one with me last year.

This was a med cruise starting in Italy and going to Greece and Turkey and in August. It was very hot, but she was such a trooper!

Again it was amazing to spend this special time with her.

 

So, in general I think that cruising is suitable to go with anyone you like. Lost of girlfriends go together and even guys go with their mates.

Then there are the same sex couples as well, family get togethers for reunions, special birthdays or weddings where ages can range from say 3yr old to in the eighties.

 

BUT my story is not over yet!

 

My husband was the same as yours, he just was not interested in cruising. However, one day he said if he would ever do a cruise it would have to be a Mediterrean one. Well, jumped on that one straight away and it did not take me long to find a deal and we booked. It is exactly the same itinerary I did last year with my Mum, but I don't care:p.

 

Now that the trip is coming closer, DH is starting to get more and more excited about all the places he is going to see and is even to start get a little more interested in the ship (although, really, he wants everything on the ship to be a surprise).

 

I feel very blessed that I can go on this trip again and must say it does feel different to go with DH, definitely romantic.... Also expecting it to be more intense, because of all the things he wants to do and see in Europe.

 

I am now planning a cruise for 2015 with my sister. She has been very reluctant to cruise (she did not even want to go last year when we were going to gift her the cruise:eek:).

 

ANOTHER BUT.. I think what both her and DH converted in the end is that you can see so many places without having to unpack all the time, driving, finding places to eat etc.

 

So, maybe you can find out where your DH always has wanted to go like Alaska or Tahiti, who knows? Seems most men like the port calls the best.

Or, maybe he will just slowly over time get influenced by all your great cruise experiences Ha, ha and wet his appetite (literally with speciality restaurants) Or he might see the economic benefits (when you compare the land vacation to a cruise;)).

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After 34 years, my husband is also my BFF. However, he has never been interested in cruising. So I mainly cruise with my sister and we love it. This year my husband and I cruised because he promised he would try it once. It was lovely and he was open minded, but he did not love it like my sister and I do. So we will go back to cruising as sisters and leave DH behind. He is happy staying home and the economics of only me cruising are great. We do lots of other things together, including nice travel.

 

BUT - a woman at our traditional table said to me one year "So, your husband LETS you cruise without him??" We are still laughing about that!

 

I think generally women like cruising better because there is NO WORK, we enjoy the service because domestic stuff still falls mainly to the women!

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I guess that I would be a little concerned if as a newlywed my husband had no interest in going on a vacation with me. Has he even been on a cruise before to know that he would rather stay at home?

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I sailed for years without my DH because he refused to set foot on a ship, but he always encouraged me to go. I've sailed with my sister, sister-in-law, grandson and cousin. Then, last year we were planning a Dec cruise & he was going to be left home alone for 5 days and decided he would try a cruise. Before day 2 was complete, he was planning our next cruise. We are sailing in Aug with other family members & friends.

 

We have just celebrated our 41st wedding anniversary & he is my BFF; however, he doesn't like to go the way I do. He has never minded me going alone or going with a friend or family member. He used to tell me that he would pay for someone to go if I wouldn't be angry with him for staying home!

 

I think my days of cruising without him are over and that's fine with me! However, if the opportunity to go comes along and DH doesn't want to go, I know I have the option to travel without him.

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We've cruised together with some success but overall it's really not my beloved's thing so I tend to sail solo these days. There's nothing worse than dragging a reluctant companion on a cruise if they really don't want to be there. Im not much interested in outback camping trips either!

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I have read here where (and on other sites) where people have cruised without their spouses.

Neither my DH or I would cruise without the other one.

Have you asked your new husband how he feels about you going on a vacation without him? JMO -- but I don't think that you are starting off a new marriage taking a cruise without him.

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I'm a cruise addict, and also recently remarried. My new hubby doesn't have any interest in cruising. So I am going on my next one without him (which I booked before we were together.)

 

Just wondering how unusual, or not, this is? :eek:

 

 

My wife still works. My first (and maybe my last) cruise without her is the 4/21/13 RCCL Galveston to Barcelona 15 day cruise. Previously we've done 3 cruises together and have 4 cruises together booked between now and March 2014. We both love cruising. She's a teacher and has quite a bit of time off compared to most people. I just couldn't resist the price on the Transatlantic cruise and only one air plane ticket home since it is out of Galveston, near my home. We'll see how she does with me being gone for 15 days. Never been apart for that long before.

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DH is a CPA so certain times of the year he is locked in his office and unfit to be around:eek: so I sailed with girlfriends.

Now DH and I plan cruises around tax deadlines, but I would still sail with girlfriends; we had a blast:D

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My DH is my BFF. He stayed home with our elderly cats several times while I cruised solo. The cats have now passed away and we cruise together.

 

I have more vacation time than he does and will consider solo cruising in the future.

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I love traveling with my husband - we have a ton of fun together. That said, I'd love to do a cruise with my BFF. Time and money just doesn't permit right now. Hopefully someday!

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I and my dh took our first cruise together for our 20th wedding anniversary, but he is too much of a home body and has NO desire to go away from home. When we married I knew this and plan accordingly. Most of the time I travel with our youngest son. Do I miss him not going with me, for sure, but I need time to recharge and relax.

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How lucky you are to still have Mom....I'll never forget the memories of cruising/traveling with my parents..who were my two best friends..I have an understanding hubby too that knew how important my spending time with them was while we could.

 

Sally and I took both our mothers on a Fall Colors Cruise to Canada last year. We had a great time and I'm now the favorite son and son inlaw, but it was a challenge for me to cruise with three opinionated women. Don't know why I didn't think about that before the cruise.:o

 

Burt

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I have never cruised with my husband. I would love to, but he has health issues which prevent him from going.

 

I vacation with a group of older women called "Golden Girls Gone Wild." We have a ball! It's our week to be pampered and to be waited on. We do whatever we want, eat whatever and whenever we want and don't have to take care of anyone but ourselves....no dishes, no laundry, no cleaning, no chauffeuring.... no better way to relax than on a cruise! Our biggest chore is deciding which drink to order.

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Sally and I took both our mothers on a Fall Colors Cruise to Canada last year. We had a great time and I'm now the favorite son and son inlaw, but it was a challenge for me to cruise with three opinionated women. Don't know why I didn't think about that before the cruise.:o

 

Burt

Burt...May have been best that you didn't think about it....Would it have really made any difference if you had ;):D

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My husband sometimes goes skiing without me (I have a bad back and don't have the same passion for it that he does), and then my sister and I take an annual cruise together every year.

My husband has no desire to cruise and was a "Douglas Downer" for most the only cruise he ever tried.

So we spend 50 plus weeks together, take family vacations, and couples vacations; but we've decided that we are both free to do our own things occasionally.

I like having that freedom to do something I love without dragging him along knowing he won't be happy.

My sister and I live on opposite coasts and before we started our annual cruise, rarely saw each other. Now, we look forward to our annual cruise together and the hubby stays home and takes care of the pets.

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I will be taking a cruise alone next year...husband was just not interested. We are, however, doing 2 cruises together before then.

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Have only cruised with hubby once to Alaska. The rest have been with my BFF. She and I also do land vacations together withour our respective DH's.

 

This is me too. Took BF to Alaska, he didn't like it. The last three I've made has been with a co worker, works out great for everybody.

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but I need to cruise without DH! I've now cruised with him twice, but mostly I've cruised alone, or with my sister or with my BFF. Solo cruising is my all-time favorite for true rest and relaxation.

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Our adult daughter is single and cannot afford to pay for double occupancy so we have cruised several times together with my DH's blessing. He is a gem.

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