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Ever Cruise Without The Old Ball-And-Chain?


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Warning: Before the flamers and PC-police arrive, this is a tongue-in-cheek post meant for light entertainment only. If you have an axe to grind, please read elsewhere!

 

This past winter I had an opportunity to take a cruise without the old Ball-and-Chain;), also known as She Who Must Be Obeyed. She already had another trip scheduled with a girl friend and I had planned to stay home. A brother spotted a last-minute cruise deal and asked if I wanted to go. I asked myself "Why not?" Might be fun to try a cruise on my own - my brother and I were not going to share a cabin.

 

Long story short, I booked an inside guarantee instead of the requisite balcony that would be booked if B&C were going along. I left the suit at home and skipped formal night, another requisite if B&C was with me. I skipped all shore excursions - another B&C requisite - and lounged around the pool on port days and enjoyed the pool deck with a bucket-of-beer and few chair hog nests in evidence. I skipped most of the productions shows - another B&C requisite - since they are the same old same old song and dance at ear-splitting volume and I don't enjoy them. I never stepped foot inside any of the shops - you guessed it, another B&C requisite just in case there's something in there that we "need".

 

What I did do was get up early every morning and walk a couple of miles on the promenade deck. I got up really early a couple of mornings and watched the sun come up from the bow of the ship. I ate when I wanted and where I wanted. I found a comfy spot on deck and read a good book most afternoons before closing my eyes for a cat nap. I went to the Concierge lounge late afternoon for a quiet coffee break to meet my brother and sometimes we stayed for a scotch or two. Some evenings I went topside to watch the stars and see if I could see a shooting star, or spot another ship on the horizon. It was one of the most relaxing cruises I've ever been on.

 

Don't get me wrong, I love my DW more than anything and we cruise together 2-3-4 times a year and always have a great time.:) However, it was fun to be on my own and do what I wanted when I wanted.

 

Has anyone else tried it?

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Thanks. A couple of years back I took a four week solo motorcycle ride with only a general idea of which direction to ride and no reservations. At the risk of offending B&C, I never felt so free in my adult life.

 

We both do a solo trip or two every year now. They seem to feed the soul and strengthen our relationship.

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Thanks. A couple of years back I took a four week solo motorcycle ride with only a general idea of which direction to ride and no reservations. At the risk of offending B&C, I never felt so free in my adult life.

 

We both do a solo trip or two every year now. They seem to feed the soul and strengthen our relationship.

 

Thats just awesome...and you are right it does do some good for the relationship. although i am lost without the other half with me at times it does feel good to get away from each other for awhile. gives you lots to talk about when you return.

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I try to do a girlfriends trip yearly, land based or cruise. Hubby sits on his hunting lease and I fill up on girl chat. I think absence does make the heart grow fonder.

Also, as OP alludes to: it is more freeing, I think because it's a more selfish week.

I do enjoy travel with DH very much, but I love solo or with GF's as well.

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After about 25 cruises I decided to take two of my sons on a cruise. Just the 3 of us. They were 19 and 22 at the time. That was the only cruise I ever met the Security people on official business. Hey, you get three "boys" together and things happen.

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I know exactly what pirate means and agree completely. We did a great cruise in February - but I can't wait for my solo cruise in November! When he mentioned a couple nights ago that he'd come with me if a work thing falls through I wasn't happy. I love him to death, but I enjoy my solo cruises and want to keep this one just for me - to do only what I want to do for 7 straight days ;-)

 

Sue/WDW1972

Eurodam 11/07/09

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Is there an equivalent "ball and chain" term for husband?:p

 

I've done it without my B&C and can't say it was all THAT much fun. Maybe it's becuase we just happen to like doing the same things but still aren't "attached at the hip". He gets up early to go do his run while the Queen sleeps. He goes to bed early while I go lose some money in the casino.

 

Ummmm...there was that conga line thing on the last cruise without him that he just wouldn't have gotten...oops...and the formal picture taken with stupid Jerry Lewis type glasses.:D:D

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I'd be the ball & chain in that metaphor. But I am the one who would LOVE to cruise solo! We have different preferences when we cruise & I think I'd have more fun w/out him!!

 

(By the way, I (the "ball & chain") do not require him to do any of the things I want to do when we're cruising. We tend to go our separate ways & then always wind up meeting up again somewhere. We always eat together but we frequently split up during parts of the day ... I like it better that way ;) & so does he.)

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I too love cruising with the DH, we are very compatible travelers, and always, always, always have a great time no matter what kinks popup. We just laugh them off and move on....however, many years ago, I went on a high school reunion cruise without the DH (he was fine with it). I spent the night before the cruise with my very best friend from high school, and we had such a great time catching up. We were excited to see our old friends. The alumni staff that planned the cruise did an incredible job! There were tote bags, corkscrews, wine, and all kinds of goodies with our high school logo on it. I had a wonderful time!

Anytime I've ever traveled by myself though, there are always those moments when I wish the DH were there to shrare my good times, or to see something that I think he would enjoy.

 

I also am a fan of spending some alone time, it feeds the soul and it is true in our case that '"absence makes the heart grow fonder''.:D I trust my B&C and he trusts me, its a beautiful thing!!:D

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Yes I have without the husband! He is not cruise crazy. So he told me go ahead and book with a group of friends we have traveled with before. Another friend, whose husband did not want to cruise, went as my roommate. I went to the gym when I wanted, would eat in the dining room for breakfast. lunch and dinner. Sometimes alone, and met many nice people! I would catch up with my roommate sometimes.

Sat and read books, caught up with the group when I wanted! Did nothing at times. I recommend this for anyone that has been married forever, like me. Just great being responsible for nothing but me. I am usually the one that takes care of all the details on a vacation, the passports, the transport etc. It was nice not having to do all that planning. I am in the midst of planning daughters cruise wedding, set for June 15.

This should be fun, but again, I am the "Planning Director!" I will need a cruise by myself again!

Ya know, the cruise lines should have specials for this! Those of us that just need to clean out the cobwebs for a week, a mental health week!

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Have done it many times in fact both of us travel seperate with friends 1 time per year... the guys get to be together w/out the wives and visa versa.....

 

"Absence makes the heart grow stronger" and these seperate vacations once a year has had a positive effect on our relationship........

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yep...about every 18 months, I get away from it all, and him, so that I don't kill everyone in sight..(especially him!). hehe

 

I think he is getting used to it, but it still irks him a little.

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We've not cruised separately. For us a cruise is a very special opportunity to see a part of the world we've not seen before...or to return to a part of the world we both love...so cruising is a "joint" activity.

 

We also don't do everything together, even on the cruise. He'll go off on various excursions, I might stay on the ship, we may eat at different places and then "report back" to each other, that sort of thing. But for the most part, we share cruises together.

 

But we DO have separate land vacations, almost every year. We have very different "land" interests, so he goes off and camps nearly every weekend from April through October, and I either go off on some other kind of adventure...or stay home and "vacation" here....don't cook, don't make noise, don't even talk, sometimes...just make pots of tea and catch u p on my reading! :)

 

I think separate interests and willingness to let the other "do your own thing" is a large part of how we've stayed together for 42 years....

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Yes, I'm leaving in 2 weeks for our 3rd annual girls cruise and I can't wait. My husband has taken trips on his own and he doesn't like to cruise so he's happy I've found someone who does. My sister and I live 2000 miles apart, so this is our annual trip. It works out fine for us.

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I would LOVE to go without the DH. How do you approach your spouse with this idea?

It just happens. "The girls were talking about going to ______. Mind if I go with them?"

 

I've taken several girls trips and he's gone off by himself a couple times, too.

 

My B&C is high maintenance while I'm more wash-n-wear, free spirit. it's always somehow easier travelling with the girlfriends. but, do enjoy trips with B&C. Ireland is next, a dream trip for him. But I'm still doing all the planning. go figure ...

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