as a Cis Bisexual male who identifies as Queer and has been out for over 20 years, I've always liked FoD for the tradition, BUT I can see the point of the original poster. The fact that we have this Board proves the point.
I'm married to a woman, so it isn't always apparent that I'm Queer. On the 4 cruises I've been on (last one in 2005) we have not made any of the FoD gatherings because of everything else happening on the cruise.