Based on the ages of your kids, my recommendation would be connecting rooms. However, as our 3 got into later teens, it was way better to book them nearby or across the hall, as they liked to stay out WAY later than us and this way we wouldn't be disturbed with them coming and going late, especially on the evenings that we weren't doing something together (the dividing doors are not usually not very soundproof!). Our youngest wound up moving over into my room later in the week since she likes her sleep! The Oasis class ships can be overwhelming for first time cruisers and I believe that a smaller scale ship might be less intimidating for a first time cruiser as you "learn the ropes". Cruising is great for families on RC regardless of the ship.