Does anyone else feel sorry for straight people...?

[starri]

Nope. No judgment here. Just not our reason for going. We would show up to meet potential new friends and we would either find ourselves alone or ignored by the handful of others when they discovered we were a couple and not interested in a hook up.

 

It's interesting, on our last cruise my husband and I (mid-to-late thirties) were the youngest there by at least fifteen years. I don't think there was one single person. Guess it depends on the ship and the line.

[CRUISEBOY305]

i never attend FOD get togethers. On my recent transatlantic I decide to expand my horizons and go to one of the get togethers. People were so unfriendly. Everyone either had their own little circle or just simply wanted a potential hook-up (I am single and not interested in random hook ups) . I tend to bond better with straight cruisers anyway. :cool:

Edited May 11, 2016 by CRUISEBOY305

[Lyndaharve]

My husband and I shared a table with two gay men on our last Celebrity cruise, friends now for life, couldn't care what sexuality you are it's the personality what counts and if you hit it off

[CRUISEBOY305]

My husband and I shared a table with two gay men on our last Celebrity cruise, friends now for life, couldn't care what sexuality you are it's the personality what counts and if you hit it off

 

very true

[drhall]

Not sure of the OP's intent, but here I am commenting anyway. So... there you have it.

 

The Friends of Dorothy / LGBT meetings are becoming more and more irrelevant as the tides continue to change and acceptance becomes widespread. 10, 20, 30 years ago... it was a big deal, as any group of people who were willing to instantly accept your orientation or identity was a very rare thing, and if you encountered a naysayer, complaining or making bad press for them didn't accomplish anything--because you didn't have the support of the masses anyway.

 

With that being said, I don't have any friends who are transgender, but I imagine that this sub-set of LGBT would find these meetings more beneficial than me...even though LGBT meetings as a whole are usually a "boy's club" anyway.

 

"Bedroom behavior" has nothing to do with it, and is a very outdated and uneducated way to view LGBT individuals. Heterosexuality comprises under 80% of the population. They are still the majority by a wiiiiiide margin. Until they live ostracized by employers, friends, family, politics, strangers, and the general population...they won't need a "Straights Gathering" group. Basically everywhere they go, worldwide, is an accepted gathering.

 

I've been to LGBT / FOD gatherings. I attended with my husband so we would be two more faces in the room to keep attendance going, and possibly make friends. No success yet. My experience has been that the other people present (only men showed up) just sat around people watching and wouldn't really speak back. Even passing them in the elevator or by the pool later in the sailing produced zero interaction... not even those typical icebreaker statements that you make when you bump into others in elevators, at the buffet, in a show, etc.

 

I have actually made more friends in the rollcalls on CC than in those meetings. But, that's my experience. Your results may vary.

 

Friends come in all shapes, sizes, and places. Step slightly outside your comforts from time to time and you will be surprised how similar everyone, everywhere, is.

[CRUISEBOY305]

Not sure of the OP's intent, but here I am commenting anyway. So... there you have it.

 

The Friends of Dorothy / LGBT meetings are becoming more and more irrelevant as the tides continue to change and acceptance becomes widespread. 10, 20, 30 years ago... it was a big deal, as any group of people who were willing to instantly accept your orientation or identity was a very rare thing, and if you encountered a naysayer, complaining or making bad press for them didn't accomplish anything--because you didn't have the support of the masses anyway.

 

With that being said, I don't have any friends who are transgender, but I imagine that this sub-set of LGBT would find these meetings more beneficial than me...even though LGBT meetings as a whole are usually a "boy's club" anyway.

 

"Bedroom behavior" has nothing to do with it, and is a very outdated and uneducated way to view LGBT individuals. Heterosexuality comprises under 80% of the population. They are still the majority by a wiiiiiide margin. Until they live ostracized by employers, friends, family, politics, strangers, and the general population...they won't need a "Straights Gathering" group. Basically everywhere they go, worldwide, is an accepted gathering.

 

I've been to LGBT / FOD gatherings. I attended with my husband so we would be two more faces in the room to keep attendance going, and possibly make friends. No success yet. My experience has been that the other people present (only men showed up) just sat around people watching and wouldn't really speak back. Even passing them in the elevator or by the pool later in the sailing produced zero interaction... not even those typical icebreaker statements that you make when you bump into others in elevators, at the buffet, in a show, etc.

 

I have actually made more friends in the rollcalls on CC than in those meetings. But, that's my experience. Your results may vary.

 

Friends come in all shapes, sizes, and places. Step slightly outside your comforts from time to time and you will be surprised how similar everyone, everywhere, is.

 

well said.

 

I too have made more friends on the CC roll calls than at the LGBT get togethers.

[GrooveInWhichWeMove]

I've been to LGBT / FOD gatherings. I attended with my husband so we would be two more faces in the room to keep attendance going, and possibly make friends. No success yet. My experience has been that the other people present (only men showed up) just sat around people watching and wouldn't really speak back. Even passing them in the elevator or by the pool later in the sailing produced zero interaction... not even those typical icebreaker statements that you make when you bump into others in elevators, at the buffet, in a show, etc.

 

I have actually made more friends in the rollcalls on CC than in those meetings. But, that's my experience. Your results may vary.

 

Friends come in all shapes, sizes, and places. Step slightly outside your comforts from time to time and you will be surprised how similar everyone, everywhere, is.

 

That's interesting, and actually the total opposite of my experience, as I said in my starting post! I guess every cruise and passenger is different.

[Single Cruiser]

Not sure of the OP's intent, but here I am commenting anyway. So... there you have it.

 

The Friends of Dorothy / LGBT meetings are becoming more and more irrelevant as the tides continue to change and acceptance becomes widespread. 10, 20, 30 years ago... it was a big deal, as any group of people who were willing to instantly accept your orientation or identity was a very rare thing, and if you encountered a naysayer, complaining or making bad press for them didn't accomplish anything--because you didn't have the support of the masses anyway.

 

With that being said, I don't have any friends who are transgender, but I imagine that this sub-set of LGBT would find these meetings more beneficial than me...even though LGBT meetings as a whole are usually a "boy's club" anyway.

 

"Bedroom behavior" has nothing to do with it, and is a very outdated and uneducated way to view LGBT individuals. Heterosexuality comprises under 80% of the population. They are still the majority by a wiiiiiide margin. Until they live ostracized by employers, friends, family, politics, strangers, and the general population...they won't need a "Straights Gathering" group. Basically everywhere they go, worldwide, is an accepted gathering.

 

I've been to LGBT / FOD gatherings. I attended with my husband so we would be two more faces in the room to keep attendance going, and possibly make friends. No success yet. My experience has been that the other people present (only men showed up) just sat around people watching and wouldn't really speak back. Even passing them in the elevator or by the pool later in the sailing produced zero interaction... not even those typical icebreaker statements that you make when you bump into others in elevators, at the buffet, in a show, etc.

 

I have actually made more friends in the rollcalls on CC than in those meetings. But, that's my experience. Your results may vary.

 

Friends come in all shapes, sizes, and places. Step slightly outside your comforts from time to time and you will be surprised how similar everyone, everywhere, is.

 

 

Yep, that's about my experience. And being a solo passenger it's more intimidating talking to couples because some seem to dislike their partners talking to solo gay passengers.

Guess that's a throwback from the "scene"

[CRUISEBOY305]

Yep, that's about my experience. And being a solo passenger it's more intimidating talking to couples because some seem to dislike their partners talking to solo gay passengers.

Guess that's a throwback from the "scene"

 

I'm with you. I usually don't feel comfortable when couples are involved. :(

[Adcro]

Hubby and I are a gay couple, been together for 14 years now, but we've never been very "scene", we don't go out drinking or clubbing or anything, and as nice as it is to socialise, neither of us really sees the point in going to a meeting specifically with people who share your sexual interests... it's really not anyone's business but our own. We'd rather socialise with everyone, no matter their attributes :)