bridal shower?

[hi2you]

Here is the story:

 

My male cousin is getting married for the first time in July. It is his fiance's second marriage(her first husband passed away).

 

My cousin's mother passed away last November of colon cancer.

 

Here is my question-does a second marriage, even though it is a first for my side have bridal showers. If so, should my side do something on my aunts behalf - we do not know the bride. My cousin only has a brother, no sisters. Perhaps I should simply wait to see if the bride is having one, where we are invited to it. Though on the flip side, time is counting down.

 

I realized this isn't cruise related but opinions would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

[Andee]

Hosting a shower might be a nice way for your side of the family to get to know the bride and welcome her to your family.

 

The bride shouldn't be hosting her own shower, so I'm not quite sure what you mean by "simply wait to see if the bride is having one".

[Happy ks]

I think a shower on your side of the family would be lovely. Why not make it a "couples" shower and a little more casual, say a backyard barbeque. I've been to some that are themed...say kitchen goods or sporting goods (depending on what they do for relaxation).

 

If the guys have a hard time going to a wedding shower, call it an engagement party.

[Kiln Wood]

I think a shower on your side of the family would be lovely. Why not make it a "couples" shower and a little more casual, say a backyard barbeque. I've been to some that are themed...say kitchen goods or sporting goods (depending on what they do for relaxation).

 

If the guys have a hard time going to a wedding shower, call it an engagement party.

 

Good ideas here!!

[Ontario cruise duo]

I think a shower on your side of the family would be lovely. Why not make it a "couples" shower and a little more casual, say a backyard barbeque. I've been to some that are themed...say kitchen goods or sporting goods (depending on what they do for relaxation).

 

If the guys have a hard time going to a wedding shower, call it an engagement party.

 

That's a great idea. We did the same thing for a baby shower for my sister-in-law and brother-in-law (DH's brother) 10 years ago. It was a real interesting shower and I even think the guys ended up enjoying themselves, having never been to a "shower" before!! Even better if it can be a barbeque as stated above!!

[hi2you]

Some good ideas to review-thanks. I wasn't sure. By the bride having a shower, I simply meant, waiting to see if someone on her side, or bridesmaids were having one.

[KandCsailing]

I think a shower on your side of the family would be lovely. Why not make it a "couples" shower and a little more casual, say a backyard barbeque. I've been to some that are themed...say kitchen goods or sporting goods (depending on what they do for relaxation).

 

If the guys have a hard time going to a wedding shower, call it an engagement party.

BBQ is a good idea or have it at a golf course or go-carts...someplace where everyone plays first.

Could always just have an old fashioned afternoon tea party...make everyone get dressed up and watch the men try to drink nicely out of tea cups (pinkie up please).

Having something before the wedding would be a nice way for the Aunts (and everyone else) to get to know the bride before the wedding.

Weddings really go too fast for the couple to have a long chat. I know mine did!

 

Some people here do "Jack n' Jill" parties for the couple. Friends sells tickets and they play poker, 50/50 draw and casino games to raise money instead of gifts. If they don't need the cash, they could donate it to colon cancer research in honor of his Mom. A lot of people who can't make the party usually buy a ticket anyway.

[Happy ks]

 

 

What a lovely idea! To honor his mother in such a way would mean so much to both of them.

 

You may want to speak with your cousin about what their wishes are. Depending on their ages and how long they have lived on their own, material things may mean little to them, or they may be like young kids and need a lot to start out. No way to know unless you have a dialogue with him.

[cruise kitty]

 

Some people here do "Jack n' Jill" parties for the couple. Friends sells tickets and they play poker, 50/50 draw and casino games to raise money instead of gifts. If they don't need the cash, they could donate it to colon cancer research in honor of his Mom. A lot of people who can't make the party usually buy a ticket anyway.

 

I completely agree with Happyks, this is a great idea! Our dd & fiance are having a couples shower tonight, & then a bridal shower (girls only) tomorrow. The great thing about a couples shower, is that it would really allow the two sets of friends & family a chance to get to know one another under more relaxed circumstances.

[hi2you]

Thanks for the input-I will keep the ideas and talk with my sister and my cousin. My cousin and his fiance are having a buck and doe next weekend(similar to Jack and Jill)-dance, prizes you buy tickets on.....