Anyone's spouse not into cruising? (Gasp!)

[42CruiseCrazy]

I am also a male (definitely a minority) who's spouse does not like to cruise. Mine WILL NOT get on a ship and go out to sea. It is like a phobia. I went on my first cruise 5 years ago and loved it so much that I now go once or twice a year and she encourages me (wonderful woman that she is) to enjoy myself. The only time we have a "disagreement" about cruising is when I have tried to coax her to come with me. Since I stopped doing that we are both happy. I miss her when on a cruise without her but not enough to give up cruising (what a surprise!!!!!)

[asalligo]

So I do not fancy myself a catch in any form, but in February on the cruise with the wife and kids I got hit on every time I went anywhere alone. All 40+ women. It started getting funny toward the end of the cruise and I started wondering, how many married women are taking these cruises and looking for something like this. Of course all of these women may have been single, but I would not want my wife cruising alone.

 

Now if you are a single man above the age of 40 and looking for a good time, you should be on these boats every chance you get.

[Kato27]

I couldn't cruise or do any kind of vacation without my wife.

We fight, we laugh, we love, she is my best friend, it just wouldn't be the same without her.

[pyropoodle]

So I do not fancy myself a catch in any form, but in February on the cruise with the wife and kids I got hit on every time I went anywhere alone. All 40+ women. It started getting funny toward the end of the cruise and I started wondering, how many married women are taking these cruises and looking for something like this. Of course all of these women may have been single, but I would not want my wife cruising alone.

 

Now if you are a single man above the age of 40 and looking for a good time, you should be on these boats every chance you get.

 

 

I told my DH, who wouldn't cruise with me this past January, "what happens on the ship, stays on the ship".

 

Now, I would never, ever cheat on him, but if he's not there I will shamelessly flirt...and I confess I DID! I met some great ladies from New Orleans on that cruise and we acted like a bunch of single ladies...we just had a great time. great CLEAN fun, but my DH would have never gone to the club with me if he were cruising, so this was my chance to let my hair down and enjoy myself. I missed him on the ship, but I made my own fun.

[CruzerDeb]

WOW Sounds like my DW and I. My Wife would go cruise with her sisters go to Europe with her sisters and I would stay and take care of BUSINESS.I had a very serious heart ATTACK (well are there any other kinds of heart attacks other than serious) I had bypass surgery with what they call a door.(cut part of your heart off.)The new ME had a better understanding of what is important.I was in the hospital for like a month.I did rehab at the house for 4 months.

 

The story I have just told was 6 years ago.My wife and I have been on SEVERAL cruises together and have one planned on the LEGEND for sept 30th.What a GREAT amount of precious time I have wasted.I am a regular on cruise critic now KINDA hooked on cruising.

 

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I'm glad that you've been healthy and able to take up cruising with your wife! Life's too short.

[CruzerDeb]

You know, I think I'm just tired of not getting the vacation that I want. As I mentioned originally, we've skied many times--and I originally really liked that. Then, we started having kids. He continued on his ski trips (with my blessing) when I was pregnant and then when the kids were still too little to go. We took the kids with us sometimes (at this point, the trips went from friends to DS's family).

 

There were years the girls and I didn't go skiing because I thought we could use the money for something else (like living room furniture or landscaping), but he still went.

 

Currently, he stills skis with a mix of family/friends. Girls and I haven't been in several years.

 

Our other vacations are: his family reunion, which is in Colorado and is always AWESOME, but it's with his family. Thanksgiving in Florida, which is free and AWESOME, but it's with his parents.

 

I want the vacation I want. End rant.

 

I'm already thinking about booking a Jan/Feb 2014 cruise with my mom.

[ljslight]

So I do not fancy myself a catch in any form, but in February on the cruise with the wife and kids I got hit on every time I went anywhere alone. All 40+ women. It started getting funny toward the end of the cruise and I started wondering, how many married women are taking these cruises and looking for something like this. Of course all of these women may have been single, but I would not want my wife cruising alone.

 

Now if you are a single man above the age of 40 and looking for a good time, you should be on these boats every chance you get.

 

 

I would never cheat on my man. I wish he would come, but since he won't I will have a blast without him. I don't drink (except a DOD), smoke, cuss,...I am looking forward to reading a book by the pool, or playing trivia games. One thing I don't need is a man to have fun. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband but if hunting Bambi is his fun than I will have my fun on a cruise. I would NEVER flurt with someone, not my style. But I will have some good clean fun!

[1tuckersmom]

My DH dislikes cruising so he stays home, takes care of the furkids, and all is well.

 

He really has tried to enjoy it but on his 8th. cruise he decided he would take his vacations doing what he likes and I can cruise with my girlfriends.

 

It works for us and in two weeks we celerbate 53 years of marriage.;)

[kat2009]

My husband doesn't like to go. I've been with my sister, my daughter and my daughter in law. He has been twice but doesn't have a desire to go again.

[misstopgun]

My sister and I decided to take a sister cruise summer before last. Both of our husbands pouted so much before and after we knew we could never get away with it again.

 

I guess I have the opposite problem. I love my husband dearly and love cruising with him. We have cruised together 23 times. The problem is he is more limited than I am due to mobility issues so I don't get to do many things on a cruise I would like to because he can't or sometimes won't participate.

 

It sounds a bit selfish but we cruise two to three times a year. I really wouldn't mind once a year cruising without him to be able to enjoy the things I miss while with him.

 

We are pretty much parked in the casino each night because he doesn't want to over exert his knees to go to shows, karaoke etc. We even miss the dining room at times because the dining room is "such a long way" from the casino.

 

I enjoy my casino time too, don't get me wrong, but there is so much else to do but no fun doing it alone. The saving grace is they don't update the shows very often or change the dinner menus much so I am really not missing a lot.

 

Shore excursions are another issue. In Roatan we have to take the chair lift because he can't walk all the way to the beach. I hate heights and am very uncomfortable on the lifts. Once we get there he chooses to sit in his walker seat because it is difficult for him to get up from a lounger. He rarely gets in the water. He doesn't snorkel. His relaxing day is to sit on a beach in a chair or his walker seat . I end up shopping alone without him.

 

Yes I am blessed that my husband shares my passion. I always enjoy our cruises. I just wish I could go occaisionaly without him without hurting his feelings.

[CBCGirl]

My dad's idea of vacatin is two weeks a year and every weekend of deer season in the woods with three other dudes shaked up in a nasty cabin. I felt bad for my mom when i took her on a cruise for her bday and she was watching all the couples dancing in the atrium. She said something like, "I wud love to dance like that with your dad, but he would never come."

 

Married for 37 years, but i guess when u get married you take the good with the bad. They still can gross me and my brother out so i guess it works.

 

 

My mom and I are taking a cruise together this year during DF's Elk season!

 

I'm sorry your husband won't cruise with you, I know if we forced my DF to go on the cruise with us we wouldn't have as much fun because we would know that he is not doing something that he enjoys. Maybe see if he would do an Alaska cruise, that might appeal to him more and open the door to other cruises in the future.

[wrigley80]

My mom doesn't like to cruise so I cruise with my dad. It is more fun :p. She has been on a couple cruises but she doesn't seem to enjoy herself so now my dad and I go on cruises and my mom goes to Colorado to see family :confused:

[GrUvGrL]

So, does anyone have a spouse that's not really into cruising?

 

For my first cruise, I took my then 15 and 13 year-old daughters on a spring break trip. DH prefers to ski. Spring break was late in the season (like April 12), so skiing was out for the girls. He went skiing in March and we went cruising in April (2009). I must say, this was the BEST vacation I ever took (with or without DH).

 

We're now planning our second Girls' Cruise for next June. Again, DH would rather spend his vacation money skiing (he says he'll die of he doesn't get to ski out West). For background, I've gone on at least 10 ski trips out West with him (and our girls went several times). I don't enjoy skiing anymore. Too much work! :p

 

He says that he'll cruise with my in the future when it's just he and I, but I have my doubts.

 

Reading all the great threads here and seeing all the pictures of couples enjoying the cruising experience together really makes me sad. So what do you do if your spouse doesn't like to cruise?

 

Since I can remember I always wanted to go on a cruise. Unfortunately money was always tight when I was single and when it wasn't I was with a man who didn't like the water (love you honey!) His bigest problem being he doesn't swim and the idea of being so far away from land not knowing how to swim instilled some fear into him (which is quite understandable to me, I grew up with a mom who has the same fears)

 

The kids, like myself, also wanted to experience a cruise and hubby and I decided to "test the waters" before traveling with the kids on a cruise. Mostly because we were not sure how he would react. Last thing I wanted was to have him go into a panic attack on board, which in turn would panic the kids. So a month ago we booked a last minute cruise for his birthday 2 weeks ago. All was fine with him! He loved it so much we are going on a surprise family cruise with the kids in August!

 

And truth be told, I was the one who had a slight panic in Freeport as the anouncement came over the loud speakers that mother nature was not cooperating with us and we would not be stopping due to high winds, stormy weather, water spouts and tornado warnings! HAHA - I was already starting to get sea sick from the back and forth rocking of the boat all night and all morning, so I sent him out to get me motion sickness pills while I called home to have someone check the weather on the net! Because I didn't want to show him I was paniced!

 

We both have enough confidence that the captain uses his magical tools to get away from the stormy weather and bring us the sun and calm waters and we are both confident that this will be a GREAT family vacation!

[jsjjkelly]

You know, my husband used to be bah humbug about a lot of things, vacations being one of them. He found reasons to complain about the people, the crowds, the food, etc. He's in the military and believe you me deployments change your viewpoint. Now all those things don't bother him as much, and he definitely enjoys the time with me and the kids.

 

Not saying everyone should join the military, but its too often we take our family for granted. My husband doesnt care what we do, as long as he gets to go too. Cruising included. We spend too much apart to get upset about the fun time we do get to spend together.

 

Shawn

[sunshinecruiser62]

I am one with a spouse that has never cruised and will never cruise. He drag races and I cruise with my Mom and/or daughter. That way, we're all doing what we love and everyone is happy in the end. I do have to add, when I see couples enjoying themselves on a cruise together, I get a lump wishing my hubby was there. Then I come to my senses and realize he'd be miserable. I hope things work out the way the OP hopes it does.

[BlondeValor]

Add us to the club as well... DH went on a cruise with me for our Honeymoon... He's just not the type to sit still and relax, and not very adventurous in eating, so he tolerated it but doesn't desire to go now... I went twice with my BFF and now, since DH is a CPA, i take my Mom and my kids and we look forward to a Spring Break cruise every year! 2013 on the Conquest and 2014 on the Magic already booked!