DH worried

[erRN2be]

As most of you know, my family is booked for our first cruise in April 05 on the Miracle. I have been the sole planner for this vacation. I have did all of the research, bookings etc. My DH just says "whatever". Well we were talking the other day and he started to mention things, and I think that he is really concerned about being bored.

 

I know there are a million things to do, but he is not overly outgoing and he can't swim in the pools etc. because of ezcema.

 

Were any of you worried on your first cruise about being bored and turned out not to be etc.

 

Any advice??

 

Chelle

[hstrybuf]

The nice thing about cruising is that there is an infinite number of things to do. There will be things planned all day, especially on sea days, to keep you busy and you are free to do as much or as little as you desire. You really have to try hard to be bored. If you look at copies of past Capers, check out cruiseclues.com, you will see what I mean. And if your DH is not the active type, this will give him a chance to just sit, relax and watch the ocean roll by. Nap, eat, read a book, meet new people, explore the ship and ports or just engage in people watching.

 

Join or start a roll call in the Carnival roll call forum for your sailing. It's a great way to meet people ahead of time and it's always nice to know someone while you're aboard ship. Plus you will meet new people at dinner, on excursions and all over the ship. :)

[Cotton]

OK Chellie, you gotta get your guy excited about the cruise! (My husband would never go on a cruise w/me because he felt he would be bored.) Men!:D Whenever a Carnival TV comm'l comes on, tell him to "Look at all those guys having so much fun!"

 

You might want to check your local library to see if they have videos on cruising. I've seen some in the Travelogue section of our library, and checked out a few on the different ports-of-call, as well as two different cruises. Then, of course, you've gotta make him SIT DOWN and watch them!:rolleyes: Have a 'cruise night', mix up some foofoo drinks, and put the video on!

 

Hopefully, as the time grows nearer, he'll jump on the bandwagon with you and become excited about this new adventure he's about to embark on! Good luck dear.:)

[cantw82cruise]

As you've read there will be all kinds of things to do. I hate laying out in the sun, a lot of our friends think I don't have a good time because they are all out by the pool and I am not. I tell them you do what you want to do and I will do what I like. There are times I like to lay in the cabin and watch a movie. Or I might go check out the art auction, or watch a game being played (I might even participate). One of the things I love about crusing is it just offers something for everyone.

[halos]

Well, it's not like you have to talk him into it...it's already booked. The only thing that will alleviate his concerns right now is getting on the ship. Once on board, he will start to wonder about boredom a lot less and by the end of the first day he will be so pleasantly surprised at how wonderful cruising is that he'll be asking you where you want to cruise next. Relax...your work is done. Let go of the worry and let the magic of the sea do the rest! ;)

[robcool]

You probably have a good idea of what he enjoys doing. I would suggest using that information to do some research into your cruise and prove to him that there are plenty of things to do. Does he like to relax? Show him pictures of louging on the decks or relaxing in the library. Does he like to gamble? Show pictures of the casino. Whatever it is he likes, show him how he is going to be able to do those things on the ship. Maybe that will help.

[tankersbabe]

As most of you know, my family is booked for our first cruise in April 05 on the Miracle. I have been the sole planner for this vacation. I have did all of the research, bookings etc. My DH just says "whatever". Well we were talking the other day and he started to mention things, and I think that he is really concerned about being bored.

 

I know there are a million things to do, but he is not overly outgoing and he can't swim in the pools etc. because of ezcema.

 

Were any of you worried on your first cruise about being bored and turned out not to be etc.

 

Any advice??

 

Chelle

 

Are you on the April 24th sailing? That's the one we are looking at and we are about to bounce of the walls! Cruising is sooo much fun! ubby was concerned he would be bored too, but as soon as he saw the boat, he was hooked!

Have fun!

[Cotton]

...let the magic of the sea do the rest! ;)

I like that.

[halos]

I like that.

 

Thank you.

Cruising inspires me ;)

[Ruffster]

I really think you need to get him actively involved in the planning. Maybe you could assign him a port on the cruise to plan what you both will do that day. Give him the shore excursion book (or print from online) and have him pick one out. Do the same thing once you get on board. Hand him the Capers and give him a time block to pick what you will be doing for those hours. I should caution you not to do this unless you're prepared to do what he decides. I don't care which ship you are on, he needs to understand that HE is the one that will make this cruise fun or boring. Good luck and have a great cruise!

[Luckyroot]

We took our first cruise last summer. My hubby is the same.........not an extrovert, doesn't like the water (can't swim). He was also concerned that he would be bored (and frankly, so was I because he's such an introvert)

He absolutely loved the cruise! There was something to do every minute of the day. He was absolutely thrilled when we booked our 2nd cruise for our birthdays next April.

I'm sure a lot of it is just "fear of the unknown". He doesn't know what to expect.

I think some of the ideas posted before me are excellent. Do more of your excellent research, show him some of the activity sheets, get him excited about it, and let him know that it'll be a wonderful time.

Enjoy!

[vermonter16]

My first cruise last year...thought I would be bored out of my mind....now I'm headed on my third cruise and can't wait to play all the games that they have on the ship...the casino, etc... They have so much going on that you can't possibly get bored... My DH and I both had the same fears....and now we can't stop cruising we have so much fun....

 

vermonter16

[ken56]

I was a bit concerned with my first one too...... but I found it to be the BEST R&R I have ever had. I loved my first one and have done 9 others since. if he is not one to NEED to be busy ALL the time then he will be fine. the casino is open when at sea...... sitting and reading a good book is nice..... the art auctions are fun to just go to and see the art, sit and people watch......go to any number of things so tell him not to be concerned. and the port days are alot of fun too. have you looked at the shore tour offerings to plan ahead some ? get him excited about the shore tours. its lso very easy to meet others, even if he is "shy". I met most of my "cruise friends " at morning coffee on lido deck........ I get up early and go watch the ship wake up...... alot of others do that too and I just say good morning and and see if they dont mind coffe company, then sit down to chat some. most people like the conversation. good luck and have fun on your cruise

[AZCAMM]

believe me you won't be board. there are many activities, shows, casino, eating,

swimming, the spa. you can be a busy or lazy as you want. it's your vacation.

by the way, what does "DH" stand for. I never knew.

thanks

[Perrys100]

Bored huh?

 

One idea is to look for Carnival capers. There is someting going on every minute of the day and night and the capers shows you what, when & where.

 

Let's assume he is not the boring type. There is people watching, half naked women in the caribbean sun, The ocean and ever changing panorama, the food, the booze, Just ask the person next to you where they are from! The Casino, the shopping, the ports, Scuba diving, parasailing, snorkeling, the cocktail parties GAWD I CAN"T WAIT!

 

The food the fun the sun the water the sea air the ........GAWD don't do this to me.

 

DW and I took a 4 day for our honeymoon just to see if we woudl like it and now we are going on our 5th cruise and we are taking 9 firends and guests with us. I KNOW no one will be bored!

 

 

Wife and I suffer from eczema and it clears up after a few days in the caribbean, not sure if it is the water or...the VACATION!

 

BEWARE , a stick in the mud on land... is a stick in the mud on the ocean!

 

If traveling with me, a stick in the mud soon becomes FLOTSOM actually Jetsum if you get my drift..wood. (gets tossed overboard!) Just kidding!

[Cotton]

by the way, what does "DH" stand for. I never knew.

thanks

DH - dear/darling husband

DW - " wife

DS - " son

DD - " daughter

etc.:)

[jimbug]

I need to add...

DH and I went on our first cruise to Alaska this past summer. I cruise for the ship, DH for the ports. He had an absolute blast in port, but was just kinda "eh" about the ship. We had fun (played trivia, video poker in the casino, went to lectures, etc etc), but I think he would have had more fun at a land resort.

 

I have Cruise #2 booked for next spring to the Mexican Riviera, and DH has no interest in going. The ships just don't excite him like they do for me...so I'm taking Mom along this time. However, I think that Cruise #3 will be Panama Canal, and he will be more than willing to go on that one--he's definitely along for the port stops.

[rothbear]

I'm really glad you asked this! My DH is the same way. We don't gamble much and don't drink a lot, aren't much into games, and the first cruise we were on (in 1986) we were with a group (I won it for sales) and he was bored to death. He did enjoy the snorkeling on the "private island", but that's about it. He tends to feel that he needs to be doing something all the time (other than eating, which doesn't do well for diets!) or else he hasn't gotten his money's worth. We also stopped at Nassau and he hated that as well. Maybe it was just the group we were with, I don't know.

 

I would really love to start taking more cruises (was can use our timeshare towards cruise credits), but I need to make sure he enjoys the one we are taking in April. Again it's with a group, but I think he likes these people more that the others.

 

Is it better to go as part of a group? Or do on your own and try to meet people. I have no problems talking with people I don't know (that's the sales part of me), but he doesn't do that until I find someone with equal interest for him to talk to.

[tef43]

He could always just go lounge around on the funnel deck. :rolleyes:

[MrPete]

 

Were any of you worried on your first cruise about being bored and turned out not to be etc.

My first cruise I brought a book, and a walkman (TAPE VARIETY!!!!), with some Howard Stern tapes (whom I taped daily back then), figuring I'd need something to fill some hours.

 

Never had an opportunity to use either, and I went to bed 6 hours later than I am now used to each night.

 

The currects is a good starting place......everything else just falls into place. The time goes by TOO fast...............

[pungo3]

Don't worry. He sounds very much like my DH who wouldn't agree to cruising with me for years and years. He finally agreed and we took our first cruise together about three years ago. There was so much to do on the ship, I rarely saw him. I'm a pool & sun and/or gambling person and he's a library, chat with employee, tour the ship person. It turned out he loves cruising and we try to go twice a year. Unless your husband gets seasick, I can't imagine him not liking to cruise. There is just so much to do and see.p.s. my DH does visit the Funnel Deck and I say "go for it".:D

[jarett]

......leave him at home and take your Mother or best friend instead!!!

 

Then eveyone will be happy!!!!

 

 

 

:)

[AZCAMM]

Thank you so much. Now I can understand everyone

[kfgarrow]

On the surface, my DH does not apprear to be a good candidate for a cruise. He has an extremely fair complexion and must avoid the sun when he can, he doesn't swim, hates to gamble, is not a reader and is not very adventurous. Know what? He LOVES to cruise. He likes not have to worry about where we are going or how we are going to get there. He loves not having to pay for all the meals he enjoys each day. He likes people watching, going to shows, eating, wandering the ship, playing games, meeting new people, visiting the ports, etc. He talks so much about our cruises that he had convinced many people to try cruising for the first time.

 

I think your hubby will have a great time, too.