Aloha. Glad you are prepping for future cruising. We have put a pause on cruising as we are preparing for a new addition to our family. Looking forward to becoming grandparents! We will have to coordinate between NY and Hawaii. Do you have children or grandchildren? If you do I am sure the treasures of memories will be priceless as we too have tons for them lol. As far as gratuities, we always receive them along with complimentary excursions dining and most importantly laundry! All blessings