Posted December 17th, 2013, 09:37 PM
Last edited by Blk_Amish; December 17th, 2013 at 09:55 PM
Thanks for taking the time to do this and your parents should be proud. Whether or not we agree (not much with my teens sometimes) they have given a voice and thanks for using yours.
I was raised with a crazy mother. Look up Madea online and she is a Saint compared to my mom. Now I try to balance out crazy with respect and understanding. There are so many things that trigger you as parent it hard to say sometimes. I give my kids a voice because I was seen and never heard. I am sometimes overprotective because I fear the worse could happen because I don't trust and have enough faith. I sometimes yell and scream because I am scared and reacting to my own fears. Sometimes I turn into my own mama and remind my kids, I took you into this world I can take them out. I know exactly what this meant, so far mine don't. I still can't answer my mama, what!
As a parent I try not to put my kids in situation I don't think they can handle. If I can't take my eyes off them then I have put them in a situation they don't belong. They are clear on my expectation and what the consequence would be. I never used childcare until they were able to speak and could tell me if something went wrong. As babies, I didn't trust them with anyone I couldn't trust with a million in small bills so I became a stay at home mom. My son is away at college with my million dollars, trusting all kinds of pretty girls
. I often got out the car and teach them how to walk down the street and be conscious of their surroundings. Yes, there are perverts out there but there are a few, and fewer with time, who look out of not only their kids but others. I don't fear the random stranger as much as I fear those I TRUST with my kids at school, church, sports ect. I try not to let my own fear cripple them, not always easy.
On our last cruise my son (17) did not have a curfew but I was eyeing him like a hawk. I wanted to see how he would do knowing in a few months, before his 18th birthday, we would be moving away from me with my credit card. He did fine (less the pretty girls) and shared things with me I could have done without knowing. I am glad he had the voice, as I am truly glad you used yours. Let's not forget not all parents have kids that are trust worthy and respectful. They need to be watched more to protect the general public and cruising population.
Thanks for you post!
Ms. Pauline, (don't do first name with teens