I Might Be Going Solo!

[karinad]

6 hours ago, ramdoggiesmom said:

Karinad, I do hope you can go, with or without hubby! Im sure your Doctor can tell you if it’s advisable or not. For me that would be the deciding factor.  If you decide to go, as suggested, pack your carry on as light as possible. Carrying around the weight can tire you out. Don’t be shy about asking for someone’s assistance, people are generally willing to help someone who asks. As for trip insurance, we made  the same trip the first part of April of this year. Last November my Mom had a serious heart attack & was told at the same time she may have cancer. I looked at travel insurance then and found a policy on the NCL website that would give you back 95% of your cruise fare if you had to cancel with no pre existing condition clause. It was about $700 for two of us. I didn’t buy it, why I’ll never know, really dumb on my part. She was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer the day before we were to leave. But in typical fashion she would not hear of us canceling our trip. 

Hope to hear back that you can and are going and then a trip report when you return!

I will surely let all of you know what my decision is. I will ask my doctors opinion, but I don't think they should have a problem with me going as long as it doesn't interfere with treatment, which should be over. I do plan on delaying hormones in case they make me mean!😆I'll be on them for 5-10 yrs! I'm so sorry about your mom! I'm glad that you were able to go. I would get a policy with pre-existing conditions at the time of booking. Thank you for your help!

[karinad]

4 hours ago, MJSailors said:

     Wishing you much good luck in arriving at a decision wether to take this cruise or not based on your health and not necessarily your DH’s decision to go with you.

I hope you do feel up to going on the cruise. 

      To make your solo  travels more comfortable for you,I am offering some things to consider.

If your hubby is not driving you to the airport, hire a car and driver to get there. The driver will deliver you curbside and unload your luggage for you. 

Arrange for a car and driver to meet you at the Florida airport. Again, the driver will take care of the luggage for you.

 Consider arriving a day before the cruise and booking a recognized hotel (Hilton,Marriot etc) near the airport or pier.Trip Advisor.com is a good resource for finding a good hotel in a good area. Try to get a hotel that serves dinner or has room service so that meals are easy for you to arrange. Inquire at the front desk to arrange transportation to the pier the day of the cruise. Many hotels offer a shuttle service for a fee,but if you do not want to put up with waiting or crowds, ask for a taxi to pick you up. Again, the driver will assist with your luggage.

At the end of the cruise,you can make the same travel arrangements or get a taxi to take you directly from the pier to the airport.

     Treat yourself with comfortable ctravel arrangements both pre and post cruise. It will make your travel to and from the ship less tiring. Now that my DH and I are in our sixties, we travel the most easy way possible. Our mantra is - comfort is most important !  It also helps us handle the bit of anxiety we feel about embarking on a journey. This is something we did not have when we were younger travelers,but it is something that we are determined to handle now  because we still want to go to the places on our “bucket list”. 

      If you do join your sister and her hubby on this interesting cruise, I hope that you will come back and post something on CC about your experience

. From the responses you have received so far, I think you have a number of supporters on this forum!

      Best wishes for a full recovery and a Bon voyage !

 

     

Thank you for taking the time with all your suggestions! They are good ones! We are also in our early sixties, but still need to pinch pennies with retirement in the future, not to mention the unknown with finances! You are right about  doing things easier and we do tend to take a more comfortable "road" and spend a little extra for it at this age. I wish my dh felt like yours with traveling! There are still places I haven't seen and would rather share them with my dh. Cruising is such a nice, comfortable way of going, once you get to the port! Heathrow Airport convinced him that he doesn't want to do it again!

[karinad]

I'm totally not worried about once I get on the ship, since my sister and her husband have booked it already. I'm kind of bummed because my husband has a full time job and he plays in a rock & roll band a couple times of month. He used to play all 4 weekends, so, you can imagine that we never get out together. I don't ask for much of his time and I feel badly that he won't be there. On the other hand, having a cabin by yourself is one big advantage!!! A few yrs ago, my sisters husband couldn't come and she did come with us. My dh ditched us for everything, including tours, and went on his own. He pouted!! I don't think this would be the case with me going with them, since her husband enjoys staying in the cabin and she ends up alone.

 

Thank you Meg and Juli on the info with radiation. I have not talked to anyone that's gone through it, only what I've read. I know they are always changing things with it on how much, how long, etc. Everyone is different and it has to be done! This is nothing compared to losing my daughter yrs ago!

 

Yes, rather than worrying about making connections and I'm sure there are many like me, I will ask ahead for assistance.  

 

Sorry, I don't think this posted when I wrote it earlier, so I'm posting it now, just in case I'm writing it twice!

[MJSailors]

       Yes, in retirement,we find it to be a fine line between trying to have financial security for the future and enjoying the life we have now. 

I can understand your DH reaction to navigating Heathrow airport. Because we travel just the two of us,we are cognizant of how the world is and the challenges presented in traveling it.

       So, our bucket list destinations include those mainly on the Eastern Seaboard of the US and Canada for cruises as those  are close to home.

       We do keep thinking about a British Isles cruise ,though or a land tour of Ireland.

For the immediate future, we plan a resort stay in Bermuda in November and a cruise on the new Sky Princess in March.

         If you do go solo on the October cruise,your hubby may have time to consider a cruise cruise for the two of you sometime after you return. It wouldn’t have to be exotic,but a relaxing time for the two of you. 

Best wishes !

[cruisinmeme]

At lease he gave you a heads up ahead of time.  I had cruise booked (year in advance), hotel in New Orleans (flight city, flights booked, then hotel in Miami. About a month before the cruise my husband said he wasn’t going. I had already read how that works out (financially) i was prepared to loose his portion of cruise and flight.  I wasn’t prepared for them to say if i cancel him i would owe another 1,000. Besides what i had already paid.  I also lost the money on hotel in New Orleans as i rode with family morning of flight. The reason he cancelled was he didnt want to fly. I was so reluctant to cancel because i thought he would change his mine.

bottom line you have a deadline and then no changing your mine. I will say as much as i love my husband and we have taken 20 plus cruises together I truly enjoyed having the cabin and balcony all to myself. One of the most relaxing cruises of all my cruises. Go and enjoy yourself.

[karinad]

22 hours ago, MJSailors said:

       Yes, in retirement,we find it to be a fine line between trying to have financial security for the future and enjoying the life we have now. 

I can understand your DH reaction to navigating Heathrow airport. Because we travel just the two of us,we are cognizant of how the world is and the challenges presented in traveling it.

       So, our bucket list destinations include those mainly on the Eastern Seaboard of the US and Canada for cruises as those  are close to home.

       We do keep thinking about a British Isles cruise ,though or a land tour of Ireland.

For the immediate future, we plan a resort stay in Bermuda in November and a cruise on the new Sky Princess in March.

         If you do go solo on the October cruise,your hubby may have time to consider a cruise cruise for the two of you sometime after you return. It wouldn’t have to be exotic,but a relaxing time for the two of you. 

Best wishes !

You must get to the British Islands! I loved it, and as you read in my past comments, my dh wasn't with some of the ports. He said it was cold and rainy. Sure, a few of the ports it rained. When it poured in the one port I didn't go out. It just wasn't worth where I wanted to go to get drenched. We couldn't dock, actually, I think it was a tender port, because of bad wind. It was 12 days on NCL Jade and I enjoyed myself except for dh's miserable attitude at times.  We spent a night in Southampton prior and Windsor for a night and did see a lot.

 

We're a couple hours from NY and NJ and have done a few enjoyable cruises from there. DH might be more agreeable in future yrs to go from one of those and not having to fly. I have to admit myself, that flying is stressful, even a short flight. Best wishes to you, too, for future trips and doing your bucket list!

[karinad]

37 minutes ago, cruisinmeme said:

At lease he gave you a heads up ahead of time.  I had cruise booked (year in advance), hotel in New Orleans (flight city, flights booked, then hotel in Miami. About a month before the cruise my husband said he wasn’t going. I had already read how that works out (financially) i was prepared to loose his portion of cruise and flight.  I wasn’t prepared for them to say if i cancel him i would owe another 1,000. Besides what i had already paid.  I also lost the money on hotel in New Orleans as i rode with family morning of flight. The reason he cancelled was he didnt want to fly. I was so reluctant to cancel because i thought he would change his mine.

bottom line you have a deadline and then no changing your mine. I will say as much as i love my husband and we have taken 20 plus cruises together I truly enjoyed having the cabin and balcony all to myself. One of the most relaxing cruises of all my cruises. Go and enjoy yourself.

That's terrible that he cancelled on you at the last minute! Did he know about flying when he agreed to the cruise? Did you owe and extra $1000. after you made full payment for the two of you? For this cruise, the price for solo isn't bad. If it were the 2 of us for a balcony, it's about $2700. If I go solo it's $1700. NCL seems to be giving a break for solo cruisers on this one, so it's a great price for once! This is a Sailaway rate, btw.

 

I, too, would love the cabin to myself!!!

[ollienbertsmum]

8 hours ago, cruisinmeme said:

At lease he gave you a heads up ahead of time.  I had cruise booked (year in advance), hotel in New Orleans (flight city, flights booked, then hotel in Miami. About a month before the cruise my husband said he wasn’t going. I had already read how that works out (financially) i was prepared to loose his portion of cruise and flight.  I wasn’t prepared for them to say if i cancel him i would owe another 1,000. Besides what i had already paid.  I also lost the money on hotel in New Orleans as i rode with family morning of flight. The reason he cancelled was he didnt want to fly. I was so reluctant to cancel because i thought he would change his mine.

bottom line you have a deadline and then no changing your mine. I will say as much as i love my husband and we have taken 20 plus cruises together I truly enjoyed having the cabin and balcony all to myself. One of the most relaxing cruises of all my cruises. Go and enjoy yourself.

 

We need to set up a group called “being married to someone who does not want to travel”!!!

 

Your post so resonates with me.  I have been fortunate that we have continued to cruise but only from Barcelona, however my DH decided that he could not fly due to some stupid doctor looking in his ear at one point and commenting “oh I wouldn’t fly with an ear like that”.  He then stopped flying for 5 years.  Even his highly qualified doctor cousin, whose family reunion in London his missed due to not wanting to fly said to me “tell him to stop being a baby and just take pain killers”.    He travelled for 36 hours on a bus (each way) to UK to see our daughter graduate !!   I had planned a trip to Switzerland for our 25th.  I ended up in a hotel in Zurich with youngest on our anniversary,

 

During his ‘no-fly’ period I have also been to Vietnam, Cambodia, Myanmar and Japan without him.  I took the attitude of “well I want to go but I don’t want to go with miserable you, so I will go alone”.  He is happy at home and the cat is cared for.  I am happy to travel.  

 

So DH is back to flying  - youngest said she wanted to travel to Alaska.  I just said “We are going with our without you.  He came.  His ear survived and he decided that he will do it again.  Next week I am finally doing one of my bucket list cruises, to Venice and the Greek Islands.  I will start packing this afternoon 🙂 

 

Of course if the situation were that your partner is too sick to travel then I would not say “I will get you a nurse and go anyway”, but if your partner does not want to travel, you have the funds and you enjoy travelling I think solo travel can be the right solution.  

 

 

[April42749]

Here's my perspective from someone who has a husband who says he hates cruises and who is a 4 year breast cancer survivor who underwent radiation.

 

The radiation part....no side effects except for some radiation burns.  What this meant was I had to take "a few days off" between sessions, so the duration of the treatment may have been a week longer.  But nothing else.

 

The hubby part:  I like the casino; dh hates the casino   We were on a cruise early Sept 2015.  We had the worst fight ever, even talking divorce.  I told all my friends even if we stay together I'd never ever take a cruise with him again.  It was one of those fights where people stop and stare...a huge public fight.

 

The cancer part: I had a mammogram on 9/20/15...the rest is history.

 

When I got the diagnosis hubby couldn't have been nicer.  When I figured out "my cancer schedule" I told him I was booking a cruise for Dec (healing time after lumpectomy but before radiation).  He never he thought of not coming with me (as a side note...4 years later...no divorce...he still sails with me...still hates the casino...but doesn't drive me crazy).

 

The money part: Money is meant to be enjoyed...otherwise there's no purpose.

 

My vote: Book with him....he'll go.  And if doesn't....your price would be the same as if he went.

 

Also...use the cancer card as much as you can now.    You'll always know you had cancer but others forget.

 

As far as hubby hating cruises.....I try to do different ships and pick excursions/activities that he likes.  Now he admits that he just "mildly dislikes them".

 

ETA: I'm 70 now and dh is in his early 80s....and both recently retired (since the cancer).

Edited September 7, 2019 by April42749

[April42749]

One thing I noticed:

You "just" had a partial mastectomy  and will be getting radiation next month.  Are you sure about when the radiation starts.   As I recall....my lumpectomy was 11/11 and the radiation started around Dec 28 (sometime between x-mas and new year).  And as I said....during the treatment I had radiation burns so the total days of treatment were extended.  Imho...I'd check the dates with the doctor before booking....and map the whole schedule out.

[April42749]

And one more thing I want to add:

At your ages and point in your lives you should be focusing on spending more time together and appreciate the time you have.

My motto is: I should be dead now.  Every day I'm alive is a gift....and I live to make every day happy.

 

Book the cruise for two, plan activities he'd like....and rekindle your romance.  You've been given a second chance.

 

 

[Starry Eyes]

On the insurance: I know you plan to buy insurance without pre-existing condition exclusions, but I would suggest you price a “cancel for any reason” policy at the same time.  That way if it came to pass that the insurance company argues you are technically, marginally able to travel, yet you do not feel well enough to confidently enjoy the trip, you’d still have recourse.  Worth pricing the option, I think, under these circumstances.  Timing sounds tight.

 

Will you and your sister both arrive in Miami a day before the cruise?  If so, stay in the same hotel and she can potentially help get your luggage to and from the lobby if there are no bell hops and if you need a hand.  Driver and piercers should handle heavy luggage at port. Just leave so time so nobody gets tired from multiple trips.

[April42749]

Me again....hopefully my final "chime in".

 

I just noticed you said your treatments go into the third week of Oct.   I think you'll have a timing problem.  As I posted...my treatments went a week longer than planned due to radiation burns.

 

Book something "a little later"....just for you and hubby.  Remember....all of your days are now "bonus time" and both of you should appreciate the "bonus time" together.

 

Good luck in whatever you decide....

[Homosassa]

OP, Just a suggestion.

 

If you are not already a member, join the community (forums) at www.breastcancer.org

 

The website is a wealth of accurate information and you will also find other members that have had or are currently having the same treatment to talk with.

[karinad]

4 hours ago, Homosassa said:

OP, Just a suggestion.

 

If you are not already a member, join the community (forums) at www.breastcancer.org

 

The website is a wealth of accurate information and you will also find other members that have had or are currently having the same treatment to talk with.

Thank you! I found that site in June when trying to make the decision of mastectomy or partial mastectomy/lumpectomy. It was a big help and I still go to it almost daily.

[karinad]

4 hours ago, April42749 said:

Me again....hopefully my final "chime in".

 

I just noticed you said your treatments go into the third week of Oct.   I think you'll have a timing problem.  As I posted...my treatments went a week longer than planned due to radiation burns.

 

Book something "a little later"....just for you and hubby.  Remember....all of your days are now "bonus time" and both of you should appreciate the "bonus time" together.

 

Good luck in whatever you decide....

I do appreciate the "chime in's and to hear of what could happen with the unknown. My nephew is getting married on Oct 19. He's my godchild, too. The wedding is a couple hrs by air. I don't know if I could do it. That will be, if the estimate is right, the last week of radiation. I've heard that at the middle and end is when you're most likely to feel the fatigue or tiredness. We are not rich people and losing a few hundred dollars really counts! I hate to disappoint anyone and I'd feel awful to not be there, but I can't help it.

The cruise is Oct 27. If my dh is dead set against going on a cruise completely and not just flying, then this would be my only chance to go and meet my sister and spend time with her. Of course, if I am still doing radiation or very fatigued, it wouldn't be worth it. 

Typically, this is when we travel, in Oct. It's our 45th wedding anniversary this Oct. and I really do wish we could go. I'd be open to go in Nov. in a different cruise and I said this to my sister. She got a little pissed at me and said that I shouldn't book something at the time frame of their cruise, but, book something when they'd be able to go with us! I thought to myself, well geez, what about me! I'm the one going through this! Sorry for the long story and the family drama!!! They do usually cruise with us and it's one of the couple times a yr that we see each other, in her defense. They have the money to travel a few times a yr. We do not! Once a yr for us and I'm grateful for that! DRAMA!!!

[karinad]

5 hours ago, Starry Eyes said:

On the insurance: I know you plan to buy insurance without pre-existing condition exclusions, but I would suggest you price a “cancel for any reason” policy at the same time.  That way if it came to pass that the insurance company argues you are technically, marginally able to travel, yet you do not feel well enough to confidently enjoy the trip, you’d still have recourse.  Worth pricing the option, I think, under these circumstances.  Timing sounds tight.

 

Will you and your sister both arrive in Miami a day before the cruise?  If so, stay in the same hotel and she can potentially help get your luggage to and from the lobby if there are no bell hops and if you need a hand.  Driver and piercers should handle heavy luggage at port. Just leave so time so nobody gets tired from multiple trips.

Yes, I would definitely get the pre-existing conditions on the policy. I never bought one with "no reason" cancellation. Don't they only give you a portion of the cost back and it is more costly to purchase? I would only cancel if it was medically necessary and I would hope that my 2 oncologists would back me up on it. I think I had to cancel a cruise about 3 times over 20 yrs. First time it was back problems. The second time for my dad's sudden death and the 3rd time for the very sudden death of our young daughter, who was going with us that time. I never had a problem with the insurance and would never travel without it! 

[julig22]

14 minutes ago, karinad said:

Yes, I would definitely get the pre-existing conditions on the policy. I never bought one with "no reason" cancellation. Don't they only give you a portion of the cost back and it is more costly to purchase? I would only cancel if it was medically necessary and I would hope that my 2 oncologists would back me up on it. I think I had to cancel a cruise about 3 times over 20 yrs. First time it was back problems. The second time for my dad's sudden death and the 3rd time for the very sudden death of our young daughter, who was going with us that time. I never had a problem with the insurance and would never travel without it! 

If I recall correctly, the restrictions on policies somewhat depend on when you buy the policy.  I'm not sure about your situation, but the sooner you buy the policy, usually the better the coverage.  So the policy you buy when you book is much better than a policy you can buy a month later.

 

Also, some credit cards include travel insurance - Costco Visa covers up to $3000/traveler/trip (plus you get 3% rebate).  I don't see anything in their policy about pre-existing conditions, only that a doctor has to sign off if you are unable to travel for medical conditions.

[karinad]

1 hour ago, julig22 said:

If I recall correctly, the restrictions on policies somewhat depend on when you buy the policy.  I'm not sure about your situation, but the sooner you buy the policy, usually the better the coverage.  So the policy you buy when you book is much better than a policy you can buy a month later.

 

Also, some credit cards include travel insurance - Costco Visa covers up to $3000/traveler/trip (plus you get 3% rebate).  I don't see anything in their policy about pre-existing conditions, only that a doctor has to sign off if you are unable to travel for medical conditions.

From what I'm seeing with the travel policies, some have a 10 day grace period and some it's 21 days. I've always booked our cruises way ahead of 2 months prior and usually buy the insurance within the grace period. You just never know what the insurance is going to consider "pre-existing"! We book with the intention of going and it's always sad when you can't go either for illness or death of a loved one!

 

I'm not clear at all on some of the credit cards that offer travel insurance. I get the insurance for trip interruption or if you have to be medically evacuated. I'd love if someone hear knew more about it to post it!

[julig22]

6 minutes ago, karinad said:

I'm not clear at all on some of the credit cards that offer travel insurance. I get the insurance for trip interruption or if you have to be medically evacuated. I'd love if someone hear knew more about it to post it!

The only one I'm familiar with is Costco Visa - there used to be lots of them, but cc benefits like that are drying up.  It's a good travel card in my opinion, because you get a 3% rebate on travel expenses, no foreign- fee charges, plus the aforementioned $3000 trip insurance.  It covers the cost of non-refundable trip expenses "if certain unforseen events get in the way of your trip" (from their info).  Doesn't cover medical expenses but does help you if you need assistance with making arrangements.  So pretty similar to what you can buy, only it doesn't cost you anything.  You can google Costco Visa travel benefits to get the full info.

[madgran]

I have been reading this thread and thought I would tell you that if you can go, Go.  I sail with my sister and BIL.  My hubby refuses to cruise, he says would hate it, and will not even try it.  My sis and I have a ball.  BIL goes to bed early and we do want we want to do.  BIL likes for me to come so I can keep sis occupied and off his case.  Life is short and you should enjoy it while you can.  

[April42749]

I'm going to defend DH here.  From your last cruise...where he wasn't a happy camper....it sounds like you and sis "did your thing", BIL was content to stay and the cabin....and perhaps your DH felt left out. (Just my opinion....)

 

That's why I think you should wait until way past the radiation and go alone with DH. Sis might be annoyed....but DH won't feel like a third wheel.

 

You're probably still in a state of shock about "cancer".  I was. And truly, it becomes the beginning of a whole new chapter of life.....especially in Oct because it's Breast Cancer Awareness month.

 

Focus on yourself and your needs.

 

 

[karinad]

10 hours ago, April42749 said:

Here's my perspective from someone who has a husband who says he hates cruises and who is a 4 year breast cancer survivor who underwent radiation.

 

The radiation part....no side effects except for some radiation burns.  What this meant was I had to take "a few days off" between sessions, so the duration of the treatment may have been a week longer.  But nothing else.

 

The hubby part:  I like the casino; dh hates the casino   We were on a cruise early Sept 2015.  We had the worst fight ever, even talking divorce.  I told all my friends even if we stay together I'd never ever take a cruise with him again.  It was one of those fights where people stop and stare...a huge public fight.

 

The cancer part: I had a mammogram on 9/20/15...the rest is history.

 

When I got the diagnosis hubby couldn't have been nicer.  When I figured out "my cancer schedule" I told him I was booking a cruise for Dec (healing time after lumpectomy but before radiation).  He never he thought of not coming with me (as a side note...4 years later...no divorce...he still sails with me...still hates the casino...but doesn't drive me crazy).

 

The money part: Money is meant to be enjoyed...otherwise there's no purpose.

 

My vote: Book with him....he'll go.  And if doesn't....your price would be the same as if he went.

 

Also...use the cancer card as much as you can now.    You'll always know you had cancer but others forget.

 

As far as hubby hating cruises.....I try to do different ships and pick excursions/activities that he likes.  Now he admits that he just "mildly dislikes them".

 

ETA: I'm 70 now and dh is in his early 80s....and both recently retired (since the cancer).

Congratulations on being 4 yrs cancer free! It's something that will be hanging there the rest of our lives! I don't visit doctors often, just check-ups, but this will be a new kind of life for me! I was faithful with getting my mammograms and this past May, like you said, the rest is history!

 

Your story sounds like mine! We didn't have a fight out loud on the past cruise, we just didn't talk much and he just acted miserable! I was planning the divorce in my head on our return!

 

I'm 3 weeks post-op and will most likely start radiation in less then 2 weeks. I'll cross my fingers with being done mid Oct.

 

I'm glad you 2 are still together and he still sails with you! We have been to a lot of countries in Europe and dh always enjoyed them and with our travel buddies (sister and brother in law) and we had a ball in earlier yrs. 

 

My husband isn't retired yet. He's eligible next March but not sure if her will. My boss died more then 10 yrs ago at 57 and I kind of retired after our daughter died!

 

Best of luck to you with your continued good bill of health! I enjoyed you reply! I didn't know there were so many miserable hubby's like mine out there!

[karinad]

1 hour ago, April42749 said:

I'm going to defend DH here.  From your last cruise...where he wasn't a happy camper....it sounds like you and sis "did your thing", BIL was content to stay and the cabin....and perhaps your DH felt left out. (Just my opinion....)

 

That's why I think you should wait until way past the radiation and go alone with DH. Sis might be annoyed....but DH won't feel like a third wheel.

 

You're probably still in a state of shock about "cancer".  I was. And truly, it becomes the beginning of a whole new chapter of life.....especially in Oct because it's Breast Cancer Awareness month.

 

Focus on yourself and your needs.

 

 

You are pretty write with what you said, except, this past yr. he said that he'd  go as long as my sister and her husband didn't go. I hate that I had to hurt my sister feelings and told her that we wanted to go alone. She didn't take it well and accused me of planning it that way. I smoothed things out with her in time and they did go on a different cruise. I didn't book this cruise without hubby's approval! The yr prior to that cruise, you are correct! My brother in laws health changed and he'd rather stay in his cabin and sleep and he just wasn't the fun guy he was in younger years! My sister mostly stuck by me and it gave dh a chance to just do what he wanted to. I was in the middle and I'm still in the middle! That is why I wouldn't feel that bad if I did go alone. I wouldn't have to worry about him being happy! Let me just say, that he has no problem leaving me alone and going off with his friends when we're at home!

 

You are also right, again! I am still in the state of shock! It's still and unbelievable diagnosis and I'm just doing what I have to do to get this over with, only, it won't ever be over!

[karinad]

45 minutes ago, karinad said:

You are pretty right with what you said, except, this past yr. he said that he'd  go as long as my sister and her husband didn't go. I hate that I had to hurt my sister feelings and told her that we wanted to go alone. She didn't take it well and accused me of planning it that way. I smoothed things out with her in time and they did go on a different cruise. I didn't book this cruise without hubby's approval! The yr prior to that cruise, you are correct! My brother in laws health changed and he'd rather stay in his cabin and sleep and he just wasn't the fun guy he was in younger years! My sister mostly stuck by me and it gave dh a chance to just do what he wanted to. I was in the middle and I'm still in the middle! That is why I wouldn't feel that bad if I did go alone. I wouldn't have to worry about him being happy! Let me just say, that he has no problem leaving me alone and going off with his friends when we're at home!

 

You are also right, again! I am still in the state of shock! It's still and unbelievable diagnosis and I'm just doing what I have to do to get this over with, only, it won't ever be over!